I also love my BH and I love the boyfriend and I am scared to let go of what I have now and yet I cant see a future without BH. I am so stuck in that clich� ...a rock and a hard place. I need some advise on firstly how to try and reconnect with Bh to see if my feelings are based on only dimmed memories and a false ideal of the perfect family.
I am wanting my cake and eating it too for sure , call me weak . Is my only option in this situation to finish with the boyfriend and then wait and see if BH dislike of me has melted.
This is why I didn't date before my divorce was final and I was sure it was dead forever.
A) Only poor quality renters are interested in dating a married woman who is half-in, half out.
B) Feeling love for two different people is a bad place to be.
You should never have even started dating this guy! WHO IS MARRIED TOO!!!!
He is clearly a poor quality renter, who only values you for your corresponding lack of commitment.
Why should your husband take you back?
Right now you value a poor quality renter who you only 'think' you love over a shot with him!
You are never going to get great quality while you settle for poor quality.
So start with tossing out the poor quality.
Wouldn't it be nice if you could at least look your granchildren and children in the eye knowing you did your best?
And if recovery doesn't work you can start REAL dating as a SINGLE woman, not as a married renters magnet. Being a good catch, who is willing to commit, is a good way to get great quality relationships in life.
You get back what you put in.