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Wife and I havent communicated well since beginning. Rarely any sex or affection, especially last 2 years. We communicate in different languages. All affection and communication is on me,or it wont happen. Shes very closed off, but really always has been. We just have 2 teenagers to finish bringing up. She is not willing to own up to any part in the problems, she wont talk about them without pointing finger, she wont follow counselor suggestions, yet she wont leave and seems ok living in this split situation. I was told by psychologist that kids are at sensitive ages and would be severely damaged by split. What should I do?
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How long married? What does she say the problems are? Do you fight with her? Do either of you travel? Work opposite shifts?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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She is not willing to own up to any part in the problems, she wont talk about them without pointing finger, What is her part?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Dr Harley would probably advise you to enter Plan A.
You can read about Plan A on this website.
In Plan A you try to meet your wifes emotional needs while avoiding Love Busters.
A great starting point is His Needs Her Needs by Willard Harley.
Have you read any of his books?
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Welcome to MB. Have you read this? Start Here First-Welcome Aboard
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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