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Hi me and my husband have been married for 17 years and together 23. I love him very much. We've had some issues throughout with slight cheating and I did leave for a few months to wake him up but now we are in a situation where he says he's in love with me and and he don't wanna split up but he also has a girlfriend of almost a year now. I just recently found out about her. He thinks it's OK to have both but it's not sitting right with me. He said he loves us both and he wants to keep us both. I don't know what to do to make him see he needs to choose. We have two children together one is grown on her own but the other is only 8 and I don't want to see her hurt or learn the wrong idea of what a relationship is suppose to be. I don't want to give up because I do love him very much. Yes I've made mistakes of talking to guys but never have a slept with anyone else. How can I save my marriage?
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Hi me and my husband have been married for 17 years and together 23. I love him very much. We've had some issues throughout with slight cheating and I did leave for a few months to wake him up but now we are in a situation where he says he's in love with me and and he don't wanna split up but he also has a girlfriend of almost a year now. I just recently found out about her. He thinks it's OK to have both but it's not sitting right with me. He said he loves us both and he wants to keep us both. I don't know what to do to make him see he needs to choose. We have two children together one is grown on her own but the other is only 8 and I don't want to see her hurt or learn the wrong idea of what a relationship is suppose to be. I don't want to give up because I do love him very much. Yes I've made mistakes of talking to guys but never have a slept with anyone else. How can I save my marriage? Welcome to MB. Please read this. Start Here First-Welcome Aboard
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Who is the OW? Have you been tested for STD/I?
What do you mean there's been slight cheating?
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Who is the OW? Have you been tested for STD/I?
What do you mean there's been slight cheating? It sounds like this is some variant of an open marriage. The first order of business should be ending that practice, or there will be no marriage left to save.
me-65
wife-61
married for 40 years
DS - 38, autistic, lives at home
DD - 37, married and on her own
DS - 32, still living with us
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