Please help with this question, my marriage has hit a real road block.

My husband and I have been married 36 years. We both worked full-time for the first 10 years. At that point I became pregnant and became a stay-at-home mom and raised 2 daughters.
My husband continued his career and has been very successful working for fortune 500 companies. He currently makes $300,000+ with salary and bonus.
He has amassed a significant nest egg of 1 million plus. He is 59 years old(I am 60) and plans to retire in 2-5 years. We have a daughter who is in dental school and will finish May 2015. He is completely paying for her schooling.
I have had a small business for 10 years. I make between $5,000-$10,000 a year. I used to deposit and withdraw money from our joint checking for this business when I began. My husband was not comfortable with this, so I opened a business account.
My question is this: I enjoy traveling with my sister and we take ski trips and other tours. I only use the money that I earn through my business to fund these trips.
My husband says that is not right, that I am not contributing to our joint checking, that I am keeping my money separate.
I contribute to our marriage non-monetarily. I pay all the bills, take care of the house, do the laundry, cook the meals, maintain our swimming pool, etc.
I consider this business account my slush fund and do not understand his resentment. Is there something that I could do differently?

Please give me some advice on how to handle this situation.

Hi Carol, welcome to Marriage Builders. Instead of asking us, I would ask HIM. Negotiate a solution with him that makes you both happy. We are not married to you, so anything we come up with might not make him happy.

It sounds like you have a bigger problem, which is learning how to negotiate solutions that make you both happy. Dr Harley just came out with a new book on that very subject titled He Wins, She Wins. I haven't read it yet, but my understanding is that it teaches couples how to negotiate solutions that are best for the marriage.

Melody, I will propose that to him. You are right. The solution should be something that makes both of us happy. Thanks.

Just curious..If you want to buy a new car how does that work? Will he be happy with whatever you buy?

Dvdman, if she wanted to buy a car, it should be something they negotiate together until they are both enthusiastic about the purchase.

Cars are not a problem. My last car was a Honda CR-V which he bought me as a surprise. It is his decision as to when I do get the new car, unless my car is not drivable. But cars are not an issue.