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Oh... and she made statements about her "moving forward" and her possibly modeling a great marriage before our children. Insinuating with someone else not named me...btw
FWH, Married 12 years, 3 children DS age 5, DD age 1, DS 18/BW's step son.
3 PA’s with in 2003
Her D-Day 1/25/2013
Divorce final 9/24/2013
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Yes I understand.
Control what you can: try to make love bank deposits with NO expectations.
NO complaints
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XW father passed on yesterday. Please say a prayer or two for our family.
FWH, Married 12 years, 3 children DS age 5, DD age 1, DS 18/BW's step son.
3 PA’s with in 2003
Her D-Day 1/25/2013
Divorce final 9/24/2013
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Sorry to hear that. How's your Plan A going?
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XW father passed on yesterday. Please say a prayer or two for our family. 
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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This is sad news to hear. Praying for you all.
W (me) - 40
H - 44
M 15 years, 2 kids
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Sorry to hear that. How's your Plan A going? Thank you all for your prayers. Plan A is going fairly ok. I've been spending quite a bit of time at her place. She talks to me as much as she can stomach. It's mostly surface level information. I'm catering to her every need, groceries, snacks, meds, dinner, cooking, cleaning her kitchen, putting DD down for nap, taking care of MIL. MIL Bday was Fri and I bought flowers, cards, and baloons to make the place a little more festive. MIL was very grateful. I enjoyed it. XW usually sends a text of "thank you"...or says so as I leave.
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FWH, Married 12 years, 3 children DS age 5, DD age 1, DS 18/BW's step son.
3 PA’s with in 2003
Her D-Day 1/25/2013
Divorce final 9/24/2013
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Hello all. It's been just over a year when life as I knew began to change. It's a humbling, refreshing, and sobering feeling reading back through my saga of posts. I can see myself being delusional, selfish, liberated, confused, encouraged, frightened to death, joyous, broken, hopeful, resentful, relieved, and a myriad of other emotions throughout the pages. Though I'm still not in a place where I imagined or desire to be; I am grateful for the journey and very appreciative of those who came on board to help me reason through a very trying season. Continue to reach out to the hurting and to those that do the hurting as I believe EVERY marriage has the potential to be restored. Blessings!
FWH, Married 12 years, 3 children DS age 5, DD age 1, DS 18/BW's step son.
3 PA’s with in 2003
Her D-Day 1/25/2013
Divorce final 9/24/2013
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Are you still trying to date your XW?
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Hi BH - No, I am not at this point. After 10-12 "No, thank you" responses the stings began to bleed.
FWH, Married 12 years, 3 children DS age 5, DD age 1, DS 18/BW's step son.
3 PA’s with in 2003
Her D-Day 1/25/2013
Divorce final 9/24/2013
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What are your plans DNT?
What type of contact do you have with your ex wife?
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Hi Jedi - Everything is calm and cordial. My plans are to pray and stand back as far as possible. I deal with her only as it relates to the children according to schedule...until I'm lead to do so differently. I'm ok with this for now. There are other factors that have come into play (were always in play) that I don't beleive could be addressed through the forum.
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FWH, Married 12 years, 3 children DS age 5, DD age 1, DS 18/BW's step son.
3 PA’s with in 2003
Her D-Day 1/25/2013
Divorce final 9/24/2013
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Are you living a good moral life?
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Yes... I am. That has been the most rewarding part of the journey. My walk and growth in Christ has been amazing. In that respect, going through it all was seemingly a nessecary evil. So much in fact, this experience has led my into a very specific area of ministry in which I've been serving. I'm now writing my first book(never thought of being an author) that deals with our story and the topic. I actually have forged relationships with a couple of commercially successful authors who are guiding along the way. XW is aware of it. It's no secrete among our fairly large "social network". I live out loud, so the transformation has been on display for a while now. I've essentially forced myself into public accountability, and I have private accountability as well.
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FWH, Married 12 years, 3 children DS age 5, DD age 1, DS 18/BW's step son.
3 PA’s with in 2003
Her D-Day 1/25/2013
Divorce final 9/24/2013
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