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I have a question about Nights Apart.
I am married, have been for several years in fact.
My wife is a lovely sweet lady.

I work in the package delivery business and on rare occasion must spend a night away from home.

Well tonight happened to be one of those nights and when I called my Mrs to check in, I heard an elf giggling in the background and I suspect that they were drinking hot cocoa together.
Personally I dont like my wife drinking cocoa with anyone except me and it makes me uncomfortable.
Now she has been complaining that I weigh too much lately but I think shes comparing me to her small friend who only weighs 50 pounds.

I listened to the MB radio show, I actually have the MB app on my "car" and listen as I pass through the USA and Dr Harley mentioned not having a job with nights apart.

What do you all think I should do?
Should I quit my job?

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Well I would strongly suggest putting your Mrs in the sleigh with you! I can't see any reason at all to leave her out of all the fun and for both of you to spend the night alone!

BTW, is it true that there are no trolls at the north pole because they can't be toilet trained? smile


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Thanks for getting back with me
I nearly fell from a roof in Montana a few minutes ago....
texting while climbing roofs probably isn't the best idea.

So you think I should demand that my wife accompany me on out of town trips?


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I dont usually like to demand anything of anyone

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I hardly think a demand would be necessary - wouldn't she love to go with you? Think of all the enjoyable time you'd spend together.

BTW, I recommend switching back to a "dumb" phone so you can text by feel without looking at the buttons!


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I just finished listening to His Needs Her Needs on audio book.
Its a great book.
I like to listen to audio books while on the job.

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I would go home and beat the tar out of that elf! twoxfour


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Usually I dont endorse books by psychologists because they usually dont endorse me.
In fact, several of my biggest supporters have been told my psychologists that I dont even exist!
Absolute nonsense!

But I do endorse Dr Harleys works, even though he may deny my existence professionally.

I like families to stay together and I see happier children when parents work together.

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I am going to speak with my wife tomorrow morning.
I need to sign off for now.
That darn NORAD is tracking me and they'll think something is wrong if I stop for too long,

I want to wish everyone a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.
Please hug your children, and remember those children who dont have parents to hug them....

Goodnight to all...

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Merry Christmas, Santa! Don't get stuck in a chimney! laugh


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Is there really a Virginia?


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santa001 santa002 laugh


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Originally Posted by Santa_Claus
I am going to speak with my wife tomorrow morning.
I need to sign off for now.
That darn NORAD is tracking me and they'll think something is wrong if I stop for too long,

I want to wish everyone a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.
Please hug your children, and remember those children who dont have parents to hug them....

Goodnight to all...

Dear Santa,

Please be sure and always use extraordinary precautions. They are for both spouses. There is a rumor going around that someone saw you kissing someone's mother.


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I am concerned that you will not be speaking with your wife in the morning. All those cookies and milk will be leaving you lethargic. Did you POJA that with your wife or was IB on your behalf?


FYI, Thank you for the Keurig.


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Wowww, Santa! I'd forgotten about you kissing someone else's mommy until LongWayFromHome reminded me!

Did you tell Mrs Santa? Is someone else's mommy married? Did you tell her BH?

Sounds like a NC letter is in order here and full exposure!!


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Did the conditions of the kiss include mistletoe? If so, you may want to watch out for that in the future. Kisses aren't mandatory for everyone, you know, just because of the mistletoe. It only applies to sweethearts. So make sure you keep mistletoe around when you are with Mrs. Claus. That will help make your marriage very romantic. loveheart


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Thanks to all for the advice.
I listen to the MB Radio Show regularly and have heard Joyce speak of the Forum and am so glad i checked this out.

Now I want to make one point clear: I have only kissed one woman: my wife.
I do not kiss other women.

I believe in the sacrament of marriage and love children dearly.

And one thing that the Mrs and I do every night is pray together

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I second the suggestion for mistletoe. We have it hanging in our kitchen doorway!


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Originally Posted by Santa_Claus
Thanks to all for the advice.
I listen to the MB Radio Show regularly and have heard Joyce speak of the Forum and am so glad i checked this out.

Now I want to make one point clear: I have only kissed one woman: my wife.
I do not kiss other women.

I believe in the sacrament of marriage and love children dearly.

And one thing that the Mrs and I do every night is pray together

I'm sure we are all quite relieved to hear that the rumor some child has been spreading around turned out to be nothing more than a rumor. The kiddo must have been dreaming.

Then the only thing I'd like to caution you about regards your reindeer. Please do keep them from drinking so much laced eggnog while you are putting out the presents. Last I heard, someone's grandma got run over by the reindeer. Such sad news. crybaby


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I think it is important to draw a distinction between nights apart in the sense to traveling and staying overnight, and nights apart where you are really just working a PM shift and never sleep somewhere else. When you consider that all the rest of the year you work at home, then I am not so sure that a single PM shift once a year should be a big concern. Now, if your wife is using this time for independent behavior, then there is something to worry about. It would be good if you could send her here, and we will try to help her with that.


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