Terri, <BR>I know what you mean about doing things for yourself. I am still working on it. Ikeep telling people that one of the reasons I moved away was because if H wanted to leave OW it would be easier if we no longer lived in the same town. I still want a job with great insurance to cover son so he won't have to be on H's so it will be easier to live his job. That isn't right I should want a great job because I am worth a great job that pays me what I am worth for a chage. I should want to live in another town because I have better job possiblities. I am beginning to realize this. We both will need to work on it. BUt I think we have take a big first step for ourselves by realizing what we must do. We willjust have to keep reminding our selves and each other that we need to do whatever for our selves. More power to us. <P>------------------<BR>di<P>