This is an update... <BR>If you read my ohter thread tou know that I went with my W and oldest son to the renisance festival today. Some friend that I work with gave us the tickets, so they were there too. The day was great and I'm glad my son went also. I think it made us both a bit more comfortable. <P>The day was great. I tried to pamper her the bast I could. She acted like she had a good time too. She saw a thumb ring that she liked and ask If I wantd to get it for her, of course I did. Thats ok though I wanted to. <P>There people walking around with eingle roses. she kept saying were are htey getting those, well we found the place I went to get her one and she said she really didn'twant one she just thought they were pretty. i got one anyway, then we lost it some were so while she was in the powder room I got her another one.all in all the day was perfect.<P>Ny friends wife(she loves to talk)came up to me and told me that she new Why My W wont let me in. I suppose she talked to her about us. She said she doesn't think the pampering will last.<P>This is so DAMN frustrating. Cause if she wont drope her guard a little more than she has, and dont het me wrong cause I love the little progress we have made, She will never know that I'm serious about the changes I have made in my life( i feel Im the cause for her affair I wont let that happen again).<P>Anyway when we got back to her house she packed up my sons clothes for him to my house. then just said she had fun and I'll see you later and THAT IS IT. then she got in her car and left to go get our baby.<P>This is so frustrating cause I wold like to see more response from her. I dont know if I'll ever get it.<P><BR>THANKS<P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<BR>

Baby steps remember??? I know it is hard you want a sudden turn around but it won't happen. I t will take a long time. It take time to rebuild trust between two people. I know she is the betrayer but because of what she did to you and the fact you are divorced? she has knows she has hurt you and can't trust that you can forgive her. So it will take time to prove to her that you do love her, plus there is the reason why all of this happened. She wants to know how much you have changed and if the change is for good. That takes time also. So no matter how much in a hurry you are things will move slow and you will not get your response that you want NOW but later. So take one baby step at a time and live one day at a time. Things will get better.<P>------------------<BR>di<P>

Time. That nasty four-letter word. Keep up all your hard work. The message WILL get through.<P>Hang in there.<P>Lori

Thanks SDS and lostva, She just called me thid morning and asked if I would go get some milk she would make us breakfast. so I guess I will go. I hope yall enjoy the rest of your weekend.<P>Thanks<P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<BR>