Do any of you have IL's that are rooting for the OP? My MIL has been shopping and doing all sorts of things with OP.... We never did anything like that in the 10 years weve known each other....<P>I also found out that I can not go to her house anymore, in this situation, I feel like making H visit kids here at home, then MIL looses doesn't she???<P>OP can take OC to MIL's and they can all live happily ever after.... Lets pretend the wife and all the legit children don't exist!!!<P><BR>vent vent vent vent vent.... cozy 8(

cozy,<P>This really sucks!!! <P>The only possible thing I can think of is that your MIL doesn't want to alienate her son, your H. Gosh, this is a TERRIBLE thing for you!<P>I know my MIL loves me, but if my H were to divorce me, she would accept the OW, just to not alienate my H. BUT, she would NEVER let me feel left out - she would spend time with me, too, so I would KNOW she still loved me.<P>Gosh, I kinow you are SOOOOOO hurt by this. Sorry....<P>Roll Me Away

Hi U2BC,<P>I was portayed as the BAD guy. To hide her affair Val blew so much smoke up their @$$ and they bought it hook, line and sinker, I'm an abusive H and treat her badly, [censored] like that. Her dad used to come down and help me with wallpapering and floor covering projects, he knows me! HOW CAN THEY BE SO DENSE! Are some people just dumb as dirt? THEY were aware for almost the entire time [ 2 years +] what their little girl was doing, seeing a friend [the OM,] he's so NICE. They were trying to protect her from me! They would lie to me of her whereabouts when I called up there. This pissed me off more than you can imagine. My loving and caring W from years ago turned into a F*CKING LYING B!TCH. I tried to straighten things out with the FIL but he already had the predisposed idea I was an abuser and loser. Lost brownie points really fast. THEY will find out who the loser is. HINT, It's not me.<P>Wishing us all the Best. Sorry about the angry post this just hit a very sensitive nerve.<P>Medic

rma Yes it sucks, and yes MIL feel she needs to go with the flow concerning H's desires... BUT the problem is that H changes his mind weekly and I think MIL is trying to chose for him! Mil thinks I'm just a security blanket hes hanging on to because of the 10 years weve had together and my seniority in years, as Im 12 years older.... But of course MIL has determined the why of everything and has come to the conclusion that OP is the perfect woman for H.... Even H at this time is swaying the teeter totter back towards me and this is when MIL says Im not welcome in her home anymore.... <P>Medic... I understand the venting and anger.. blow it all out! I caught the OW with H the first discovery.. Superbowl Sunday the first week of Feb 1998... NOW I CAUGHT them at MIL's house.... H said he has to go work on moms computer late Saturday night and called late to say it wasn't going well he was crashing on her couch.... I took the kids over there after church and we all went in and snuggled with daddy on the couch...OW was hiding in the guest room.... Boy did it take a while to sort that day out!!! Anyway, as you can imagine its odvious that MIL has given shelter to the affair all along, and now uses the OC (the only grandson) as an excuse to let OP come over EVERY weekend!!<P>Boy life is weird, and it just keeps getting wierder!!!<P>cozy