I'm not sure where to begin with this quite frankly. My wife moved out in late August of last year and is still on her own as of today. I had posted about that here in late September to get your feelings. I know there is no affair going on, as I have checked into it as best I can. She posted here in December under her name chickenlittle http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2768883#Post2768883. Many advised her to move home, as we cannot resolve the issues as she lives elsewhere. She is still living on her own, she may move home in March, but as a stepping off point to being on her own if things don't resolve themselves after six months. Since, the time of the postings most all the MB work has stopped and I have felt her drift off from me emotionally. Few acts of affection ect. I really don't know what else to do, I love her very much. She feels no attraction to me, I'm told I'm very good looking by others. She'll tell me she feels nothing toward me any longer she just wants out be able to find love and passion with someone else. It breaks my heart to know this. I show her I love her every time we're together and she admits that she knows how I feel, but is sad and cannot reciprocate.

ZEL, how many hours do you spend alone with her each week? According to Dr. Harley, couples cannot maintain the feeling of romantic love if they are not alone together giving each other their undivided attention for a minimum of fifteen hours. Dr. Harley recommends four dates of four hours apiece, each week.

How does your wife respond if you try to invite her out on a date?

Okay, just taking a quick glance at your wife's post, the biggest obstacle to getting enough good time together was love busters: demands, disrespect, and anger. Would your wife say that you are no longer demanding, disrespectful, or angry?

Basically when a couple posts here for awhile and the wife loses interest in the program, disrespect or other love busters on her husband's part is frequently a major contributing factor, if not the main cause.

Hi Markos, My would say there are no love busters any longer. She stopped posting because of time constraints according to her. We go on dates each week and spend 20 hours together or slightly more. They are broken up by days as we only see each other for dinners and overnights three or four nights a week. She stays over only two nights each week. I guess I keep hoping for an answer. Our families all say she has turned in a totally new person, only concerned about herself. Thanks for your replies