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I found out before she went to the doctor, so the std was just a consolation prize. And I understand that he encourages it, i was asking if i should do it by myself or with her present?

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Originally Posted by troubledman
I found out before she went to the doctor, so the std was just a consolation prize. And I understand that he encourages it, i was asking if i should do it by myself or with her present?

Do it by yourself and tell her afterwards.


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is there anyway that i can pm you melody?

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Originally Posted by troubledman
is there anyway that i can pm you melody?

No, but you can post here!


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Have you exposed your WW's affair?


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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



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too much pressure too much thoughts too much dispair...bad thoughts ...bad times....

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too scared, too worried, too confused, dont know what to do, bad thoughts

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need a release...need something to stop the pain

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I know the feeling. Can you give us an update? Did you expose?

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i dont think you understand...i need to stop the pain

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Originally Posted by troubledman
i dont think you understand...i need to stop the pain

I know all about just wanting it to stop


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What's going on troubledman ?


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Originally Posted by troubledman
pain and knowing is too much. ongoing things too much, want to sleep.

If you are close to hurting yourself, I would call 911 or a hotline and just talk to them.

A good one is 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

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troubledman,

While the Marriage Builder's website cannot become involved in threats of this kind, please know that your pain is taken seriously. PLEASE contact a suicide crisis center in your area, call 1-800-SUICIDE or call your family physician.

PLEASE! We care!!


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Originally Posted by troubledman
i dont think you understand...i need to stop the pain

I assume her affair is ongoing?
Did you expose her affair to family and friends?
Did you expose it on www.cheaterville.com?

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