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As I have posted previously, I am in Plan "A" right now, waiting for my wife to get through withdrawl. I discovered the affair this past August, and I have gotten to the point where I do have a general time period in my mind where if things do not get any better, I will move to Plan "B". I have been very open and honest with my wife regarding my feelings, and have even let her read my posting in this forum, and all of the replies. But what about disclosing my intentions of when I feel I might move to Plan "B"? Wouldn't this be like drawing a line in the sand...or forcing her to withdraw quicker than she is capable? I'm thinking this is something I should keep to myself...because when that time gets here, I'm not sure it will be time for Plan "B" anyway...confused? I am...
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You move to plan B when you feel that you need to do it. Why give advance noticed? That is not what it is for. You use plan B only when you feel you can not do A any more. She knows there is a plan B but she doesn't need to know when because you don't really know when. I know I have sorta set up a schedule but that doesn't mean I will follow it. I don't see anything good it tell the S in advance it is too planned and calculated. I just don't see any sense in what you suggest, and think it is totaly unnecessary.<P>------------------<BR>di<P>
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You don't give your spouse a deadline of when you plan to go to Plan B. The deadlines are for you to know and to implement only.<P>terri
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Don't explain Plan B to her. Do not let her know it may come to Plan B. Just continue on in Plan A.<P>Don't try to explain Harley principles to her unless she asks. Just tell her you are learning what your faults are and you are learning to correct them.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html</A>
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