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lonely, I find it odd that you are aguing this when on your other thread you admit to having feelings for a friend that you don't think are appropriate while still married. I also have really strong feelings for a friend of mine � this didn�t happen until very recently (about two months)AND LONG AFTER I DECIDED TO DIVORCE. We were in the same clinical group over summer and through the fall semester. We have a lot in common; same sense of humor, same interests, same love for being outside, etc. I have given her, nor anyone else for that matter, any indication that I have feelings for her; however, I get the very strong feeling that she may have SLIGHT feelings for me but am not really sure. I�ve tried distancing myself from her as I feel it�s not appropriate to have these feelings when I�m still married, And?!? I also admitted in my initial response to this post that I have one friend that I would consider dating. If you also read further down, I said I am distancing myself from her - said friends. lol! She just disproved your point with your own words. 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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lonely, I find it odd that you are aguing this when on your other thread you admit to having feelings for a friend that you don't think are appropriate while still married. I also have really strong feelings for a friend of mine � this didn�t happen until very recently (about two months)AND LONG AFTER I DECIDED TO DIVORCE. We were in the same clinical group over summer and through the fall semester. We have a lot in common; same sense of humor, same interests, same love for being outside, etc. I have given her, nor anyone else for that matter, any indication that I have feelings for her; however, I get the very strong feeling that she may have SLIGHT feelings for me but am not really sure. I�ve tried distancing myself from her as I feel it�s not appropriate to have these feelings when I�m still married, And?!? I also admitted in my initial response to this post that I have one friend that I would consider dating. If you also read further down, I said I am distancing myself from her - said friends. lol! She just disproved your point with your own words. I was scratching my head at his "AND?!?!?!" Isn't it obvious?? lol
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Just so that you are aware, lonely, this thread is mostly a discussion (I think, haven't really read it) on OS friendship while NOT MARRIED. OS friendship in M is a whole different issue that Dr Harley has an article on that was linked to you in your first thread. You countered that you do not agree: As for opposite sex friends, my generation doesn't really care about opposite sex friends, nor do we see them as a threat to our relationships. With Dr. Harely on this point, I respectfully disagree. I want to give you a heads up that this isn't going to fly here. There are so many BS and FWS both married and some now divorced on these forums that have been burned by OS friendship in their marriage and other posters who see how it has harmed other marriages just by following threads over in the Infidelity section. This type of argument just isn't going to fly here. So that you are well aware....
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