JIm --
Why did the new in-laws go against your wishes??
Was your son involved in that decision?
Did your ex-brother actually attend the wedding?
So sorry for your trouble...
Hello Lexxxy,
My ex-brother has worked on my youngest son for quite some time as his son and mine are almost exactly the same age. They played ball together and were quite close prior to the disclosure of the affair.
My son has been under pressure not only from my ex-brother but also my nephew to continue the relationship with my ex-brother.
My nephew was my son's best man.
My son probably got a lot of pressure from my nephew to invite his father or he probably would have had to pick a different best man.
So I'm sure they said to go ahead and invite him.
What made me so angry was the complete AMBUSH by his MIL and FIL in not INFORMING Mrs.Flint and I that they were choosing to do so after assuring us they would not.
It was the most awkward situation I have ever heard of with my family and sister on one side of the park (out of doors wedding), his side on one side and my son and daughter law along with my father in the middle!!!
What a friggen mess.
I was very proud of the way Mrs.Flint responded to the ambush by our son's new MIL.
There was an old fashioned 'What The Hell Do You think You're Doing' dressing down by Mrs.Flint directed at the MIL at the end of the wedding!!!
My sister, bless her heart, stayed with my family for the entire wedding and even tried asking my ex-brother to please leave to no avail...
I know some would say I should have tucked tail and ran...
but...
that's not in my nature and I won't do it.
Avoiding if possible any interaction is what Dr.Harley advises...
Not being a coward and running away.
THAT would send the wrong signal to my children and others that I was afraid of my ex-brother which couldn't be farther from the truth.
Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ avoided his tormentors whenever possible but he didn't run away from them when they confronted him...
Which is and will be my course also.
Thanks for your post.
God Bless.
Jim