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OM=other man? Rookie question #2. He does but it is not used so much. So SHE says. I only have name, phone #, and address(I think)This was an old boyfriend of hers back in high school. They kept in touch well after via email, chat, etc. He recently went through a horrible divorce(im told). And my wife was right there to console him...Unknown to me. A friend would share knowledge of a failed marraige not share the anguish, which seems to have happened. She also confided her thoughts and troubles to him. Voila!....emotional need right there.
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Do some sleuthing on him and find out if he is married. Des he have a Facebook page? Have you googled him?
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I would call his home # to see who answers. Disguise your # by using *67 so your name does not come up on caller ID, if a woman answers ask if it is Mrs Scumbag and tell her all about the affair.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Also, would this make her the outcast of the family? That would be her choice. Typically if a wayward spouse chooses to end the affair and recover the marriage, they also recover the respect of the rest of the family. Fox, did you view the video I posted? Order the book? Start gathering evidence? We've got to get you to start taking steps to end the affair lest you get mired in shock and paralysis.
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I have seen the video and ordered books. I have evidence.
I need to get everyone up to date. My wife says the relationship and contact has ended as of the 1st of the year. My trust has been ruined. The only thing Im surviving on is hope and our girls. And I do still have a deep love for her. But I'm not blind and trying not to be naive. I know that contact can be hidden. We are scheduled for counceling. She seems reluctant to start Dr. Harleys program, but I keep pushing.
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I have seen the video and ordered books. I have evidence. What have you got, and who have you shared it with?
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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Phone records, chats, emails, addresses, phone numbers
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I have seen the video and ordered books. I have evidence.
I need to get everyone up to date. My wife says the relationship and contact has ended as of the 1st of the year. My trust has been ruined. The only thing Im surviving on is hope and our girls. And I do still have a deep love for her. But I'm not blind and trying not to be naive. I know that contact can be hidden. We are scheduled for counceling. She seems reluctant to start Dr. Harleys program, but I keep pushing. What type of counseling? Is it through marriage builders?
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Counselor not through marriage builders....but I am using Dr.Harleys program at home. Wife is reluctant to do much. Only in it because of guilt for kids. I don't know anymore. She needs time to get 3Rd party out of system. All still pretty fresh. It's hard to stay positive all of the time.
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I would encourage you to cancel the counseling.
Most counselors are not trained or experienced in dealing with active affairs and will HINDER your recovery efforts.
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You need to expose this affair.
Have you called to see if he is married?
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OK....here's the deal. I have an exposure letter written up. Targets ready. What I don't have is enough or any contact info on 3Rd party side of this. Out doesn't look like I'll be getting anymore info either. So my question is: Should I expose this to everyone that I can or does it have to be absolutely everyone? Because if that's the case, then I won't be able to expose at all.
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. What I don't have is enough or any contact info on 3Rd party side of this. Really? . I only have name, phone #, and address. Because that's quite a lot of info! Have you called the number? Checked to see who else is listed as living there? Tried Facebook? Tried other websites: Whitepages? Social and professional networks etc? Tried a PI? If you tell us what you have done we can tell how to keep trying until you get the goods.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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Try entering phone numbers into Facebook. Lots of people actually enter that kind of information into their Facebook accounts, and you might be able to find their page that way.
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Does that mean you have tried all the other things? What happened when you called the house?
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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I have not called the house. I figured I had to do that with the exposure.
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I would call his home # to see who answers. Disguise your # by using *67 so your name does not come up on caller ID, if a woman answers ask if it is Mrs Scumbag and tell her all about the affair.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I have not called the house. I figured I had to do that with the exposure. It is also the simplest way to find out if there is a Mrs OM. Just call up and ask. If she is there, expose. Remember if you do catch hold of her to identify yourself clearly and give her a way of getting back in touch with you. You can also search for relatives in his town using resources like whitepages. A look on Facebook is also a must.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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