Just wondering what anyone thinks about individual therapy...is there any info on MB websites about this?

My husband is considering doing MB with me but also feels there are some things about himself that he needs to address with a therapist...this makes me very nervous but I also think perhaps it could be a good thing. Can someone please give me some input on this?

How about the MB accountability coach or coaching with Dr. Harley's kids? Steve Harley and/or Dr Jennifer Chalmers both have excellent reputations.

Here Program #3 or Coaching Center

Also please lists to these clips.
Beware of Bad Counselors

It is usually not a good thing because an individual counselor will help the client achieve personal goals, rather than marriage goals. That often causes more conflict in the marriage. What does he want to see an IC about?

You are not enthusiastic. Are you familiar with PoJA? Neither one of you should do anything that makes the other 'nervous'. If it upsets you, you must be honest and not submit to it. That's conflict avoidance. He should be asked to please refrain from anything that makes you unhappy.

Don't feel you have to justify yourself either! Not happy = not happening.

Even if it were something most people would see as a good idea, anything that goes against your instincts is not true, enthusiastic PoJA.

However it is right to make you nervous because IC's are not usually pro-marriage. It is also a terrible marital habit to keep things secret from your spouse, even with a counsellor.

Did you know the Harley's often counsel people separately in the beginning? They do so to start you off as individuals but then bring you together as a couple with RH encouraged.

Anything that makes you VERY nervous should not be something you have to endure in a caring marriage!

He won't tell me because he thinks it will hurt my feelings.

EVen so, you need to know. You can't solve any problems if you don't have all the facts.

We are just starting to look at MB...really our marriage is a mess. Trying to figure out where to start.

We have been talking a lot recently and this is my take on things. He feels that he has a propensity for doing bad things. He also feels that he is UNABLE to be the husband I want him to be. He honestly believes that he is "sick" in a way. My interpretation is that for the past few years he has felt that the solution was to leave the marriage rather than change his lying and cheating. Now he has gotten to the point that he realizes that he needs to address why he is like he is and if/how he can change it so that we can work on the marriage.