You are welcome.

Impss, your heart is hurting right now whether she is cheating or not. Tears in response to strong emotion are perfectly all right. Many strong men in the Bible, including Jesus, wept. It's not a gender thing.

What helped me was repeating and repeating that until my mind could go to something else...so for example until you are done crying. While God cautions us against vain repetitions, this heartfelt repetition is certainly not what He is referring to.

But you have a plan in place so you will know shortly. Just try to not let your thoughts roam too much until you know the truth.

There's a verse in the Bible advising us to not borrow trouble from tomorrow because you still don't know what today will bring (whether what happens today will take care of it).

I just googled "borrowing trouble from tomorrow' and it seems like there are a lot of devotions and blogs providing encouragement for not doing that.

Just stay focused on investigating to resolve your questions. Then we can develop a plan to help you move on from whatever the outcome is.

Whether she is cheating or is not, you will be OK! It's hard believing that when you are in the thicket, but just the act of initiating action to resolve it will help you feel better.

Been a week of trying to get any answer.not finding anything just a very pissed off and unhappy wife.I guess she needs her drug ,lover to cheer her up..nothing on GPS for a week.just her phone next to her every second and I pad .wanted to ask why she need both but didn't.trying to be nice as members said wanting tell leave me the [censored] alone lying [censored].still gets message's and comes back to life after.make me wonder.also reading about wife sent message to husband saying what a nice evening they had last night.he was out of town on business trip and sent message back to whore saying he also enjoyed it

Kudos on not anger outbursting her when you were tempted to.

Did you place a VAR in her car?

What other snooping techniques have you used?

Hi all.thanks sunny for help.I have found lot of answers to questions that keep going thru my mind. I don't no why I'm paranoid and hear voices telling me she's doing bad stuff and going to get professional help.can't believe someone could be that evil and sneaky and act like everything's OK and loves me.I can't snoop and sneak anymore I have already done enough damage and need to get a grip and trust god .

If you don't find out what's really going on then how will you know how to fight this?

Trust God that he lead you to MB so you can have the tools to fight for your marriage.

What spyware techniques do you have in place?

Giving up wont work.
Has she agreed to transparency?
If everything is ok and she loves you, then a polygraph would be no issue.
Search about polygraphs on the site and see how that has routed out the affair.

So, at this time you feel that trying to find out the truth about what is destroying your marriage would cause damage to the relationship?

NO!!! Allowing all the signs that point to an affair going unchecked would be more accurate about your part in damaging the marriage.

A Wayward will be angry about being outed for the despicable acts they may most likely be doing, but the anger is something that can be worked out and gotten over with.

On the other hand, ALLOWING with your covert Blessings, an affair to escalate would be much more damaging to your marriage, especially as it becomes more and more entrenched.

What are you really afraid of?

The conflict upon discovering the truth, or the probable break up of your marriage?

LTL

Im afraid of both you mentioned seems people are reading my mind. feel I have have hurt my family from all this and can't prove anything.I think my wife and others all keep close to cell phones even lady's at work I think it a security blanket or ocd . She has some kind of games on iPhone farmville or candy world not sure.I work with people who are having affairs.it sickins me when they talk about there husbands and wife's paint a picture of happiness I want to tell them save it for someone who cares...I want to tell there spouse's but its not my place.I know its only a matter of time but I hope they get cought' sooner then later.anyway thanks I'm naturally suspicious and need to turn the page and start living again:-)

I don't have to read your mind.

My thinking and pretty much most every other BS had those fears too.

In my case, i didn't know the techniques to discover the affair and would have felt embarrassed had she caught me, so i did nothing that worked.

In the mean time, i have seen amazing results from others who have followed the plans laid out by Dr. Harley work better than others, not only to break up the affairs, but to also regroup and bring back a romantic compassionate marriage.

Follow the instructions from those that know better than you.

LTL

Hi folks.haven't been here in a while.just found out the GPS can be scrambled. So I guess the times my GPS couldn't pick up signal someone was scrambling the GPS.so that was money wasted.I wish I was smarter and figured this out sooner. guess who told me ww.

Do you any other spyware in place? Is this GPS on her phone or a separate unit?

Have you checked her phone logs to see who she's been texting and calling?

Hi,the GPS is in the car .the iPhone is up her [censored] where no one can see it or use it.she probably reading this and laughing. its sad and I just want to leave.she text me and said she had a device that could scramble GPS if Had that in the car.I told her who ever told her that needs to tell me.said she red some place.I wanted to say your piece of [censored] lover but didn't. I'm holding back as people on here suggested.I'm sure if she's [censored] someone he's a veteran and tells her things being an expert at deception.this is hypothetical and its looking like members are right.if so have enough dignity to tell me and i will be happy and relieved to leave.what next?

Imss can you please post more often?
Its hard to help when you just come and go

Can you afford a PI?

Good question.

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Hi.tell me what you think?I don't want complete stranger watching my wife and house.I'll have to use info here other then pi.as you know that uneasy fillings not going away .wife still has phone glued to her side.she has I pad and always
Seems to use iPhone?today think got my answer .I have GPS on car so today when I went to work I marked tire before I left.got home car was moved.GPS showed no movement In history.my Heart started pounding andas very up set .wen't out side she followed me.I asked how could you do this to me.she asked what.the car was driven I said to her and you said didnt go anyplace.her reply .I backed out of drive way and came back because I new you marked the car.I guess she found and unplugged GPS.and she also had that glow they talk about when they get there high from good sex,or what ever.not sure what to do now.

You need to hire a PI or have a friend follow her.
She apparently knows about the GPS so she prevented that.

Or...
Get another GPS, hide it better. Then hide the first GPS where she will find it easily. Add a VAR while your at it

"and she also had that glow they talk about when they get there high from good sex"

Impss, I strongly advise you to discipline your mind better. You are making stuff up and tormenting yourself with it.

Stay focused on your investigation and don't let yourself get distracted by stuff you make up.

Also, what's with this: "that glow they talk about"

Are you implying that you and your wife have never had good sex together? Why would this be something "they talk about" instead of something you have experienced?

Thanks sunny.im sick thinking stuff and need help.the glow is in reference to signs of cheating spouse being in love and happy.not from your spouse..I'm probably not understanding and misinterpreted the visual signs.