Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum
This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at
mbrestored@gmail.com
|
|
Joined: Jul 1999
Posts: 16
Junior Member
|
OP
Junior Member
Joined: Jul 1999
Posts: 16 |
Other than making you feel good for a few moments in time....does it really solve anything?????<P>I have been married 3 years and after the first 6 months of marriage of adequate sex....he says he has no sex drive and I have not had any for 2 years......<P>I did give a BJ to a friend and that seemed to satisfy me for awhile (I enjoy that so to me it was almost the same as having sex) but I did have some guilty feelings for awhile.....<P>I just don't think I could ever go all the way and have a true affair.<P>any answers?
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jun 1999
Posts: 1,101
Member
|
Member
Joined: Jun 1999
Posts: 1,101 |
CandiCane -- I wasn't going to respond to this, but I found myself coming back here.<P>The short answer is NO Infidelity does nothing but destroy the souls of all who are involved.<P>Sorry to be so short.<P>God Bless
|
|
|
|
Joined: Nov 1999
Posts: 47
Member
|
Member
Joined: Nov 1999
Posts: 47 |
Candicane,<BR> I think you are the one to better answer that question. I must warn you I am very cynical about this but I think a BJ is consider part of sex so that means you had an affair! Did it solve any of your problems with your husband?<p>[This message has been edited by Spicey2 (edited November 07, 1999).]
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 1999
Posts: 3,247
Member
|
Member
Joined: Jul 1999
Posts: 3,247 |
I tried to not answer. I'm with these two, 100 %.<P>NOOOOOOOOOOOOO. Nothing but destruction.<P>Lori
|
|
|
|
Joined: Oct 1999
Posts: 33
Member
|
Member
Joined: Oct 1999
Posts: 33 |
Infidelity solves absolutely nothing and creates a living hell for all those involved. Betrayed and betrayer. Think hard and long (no pun intended). This will affect your life in ways you can't imagine.
|
|
|
|
Joined: Aug 1999
Posts: 6,107
Member
|
Member
Joined: Aug 1999
Posts: 6,107 |
MY first thought with a name like Candy Cane was "is this for real?" and I still wonder, but am coming back here to say this:<P><B>A BJ IS SEX</B><P>You've already gone there, and "some" guilty feelings should be replaced with "massive" guilty feelings, once you realize this.<P>Infidelity is a insidious horrid terrible god-awful thing that kills marriages, children and (dare I say it?) mankind in general. <BR><P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 1999
Posts: 369
Member
|
Member
Joined: Jul 1999
Posts: 369 |
UH, I don't care what the president says..... A BJ is still sex and is still an affair and to think otherwise is to lie to yourself.<P>------------------<BR>Rutger......One day at a time.<P><BR>
|
|
|
|
Joined: May 1999
Posts: 769
Member
|
Member
Joined: May 1999
Posts: 769 |
<B>Ditto ditto ditto!!!</B><P>It is sex and you had an affair. Going to cause more pain and agony than you can imagine.<P>(I too wonder if this is real!)<P>------------------<BR>God bless you and all of us.<P>Samantha<BR>
|
|
|
|
Joined: Sep 1999
Posts: 129
Member
|
Member
Joined: Sep 1999
Posts: 129 |
Not only is a bj an affair, if you are close enough to someone to do that with, then it was definately an affair. At best .. an unhealthy relationship!<BR>I was a pretty wild teenager, H was not!<BR>SO when I married I committed myself to him. Unfortunately he didn't make the same mental commitment I did. No an affair solves nothing! Even the brief momentary pleasure is over before you know it and for the betrayers, if you are working at rebuilding, the pain of putting life back together, I know you will agree, was not worth that momentary pleasure. <BR>CandiCane - I think you are being unfair to your spouse. If you could do that, then you owe it to you and your spouse to either leave, don't continue to lie, or get your head together and get it right.<BR>I can't stand lies .. If you are not happy and need something solved , then solve it, don't cheat and lie.<P>------------------<BR>Mater<P>
|
|
|
|
Joined: Nov 1999
Posts: 47
Member
|
Member
Joined: Nov 1999
Posts: 47 |
Candicane, Tell me this why would you assume the giving someone BJ was not an affair, to do something of this nature meant that you trusted this person. Your risk your health and your husband for (how long does a BJ last). Now you ash yourself was it worht all the pain you've caused. You should be feeling mighty guilty and begging your husband's forgiveness.
|
|
|
0 members (),
312
guests, and
62
robots. |
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,623
Posts2,323,493
Members71,967
|
Most Online3,185 Jan 27th, 2020
|
|
|
|
|