You know full well that it will be met with frigid indignation.

Why should sign it? The girls and me, or just the girls?

You and the girls should sign the card

The girls want to make a homemade card. I think I did that last year also.

That sounds great.
make sure you help them make it and sign it.
Include a picture of you and the girls and maybe glue it in with smiles and a heart

The picture is going to be next to impossible - I have no printer. I do have a cute picture of the three of us using PhotoBooth with the alien face filter, though.

I'm tellin ya, this POSOM fulfills those needs that I wasn't giving her, and then leaves. He has been stringing her along for two years now.

Should I be actively doing anything to break them up?

Can you take a picture and email it to walgreens?
They print them for less than a quarter

I would call that opportunity. That opportunity is in consistency on your part where he lacks.

BlindNM,

Congratulations on your progress and success in bringing your invention to the point of production. I have no idea what your invention is, but you deserve merits for your perseverance in recognizing a need and in developing your idea despite the discouraging situation you've been facing. As I am sure you realize, financial success alone will not restore your marriage.

I think you need to try to duplicate this perseverance in your 'attempted' Plan A. I use the word 'attempted' because despite advice here, you are only half-heartedly trying to do an A, and it is filled with doubts AND expectations. As TD advised, Plan A involves no expectations, or anticipations for that matter. So, you have misgivings about even signing the homemade valentine card for your ExW? Then, you're probably still carrying the tit-for-tat mentality that ended your marriage. Have been watching the 2014 Soshi Olympics and noticing how individuals rise to meet and beat their challenges?

One additional thing from the post by HHH:
"That opportunity is in consistency on your part where he lacks".
I think HHH is giving you false hope in assuming that the OM is lacking in meeting y9ur Ex's emotional needs. That she is no longer married to you and that she has been living with this om for quite a lone time indicates that he is not lacking. You need to jettison this obvious hatred of her and at least attempt a Plan A.

BlindNM, I hope the best for you and will offer prayers, but in my opinion you are on the downhill race, wobbling badly, about to tilt, and you need to get upright.

Tom

So I am waiting to hear back from the xW. She usually texts me to ask when to exchange the girls and it is a good hour and a half after she usually does. Haven't heard from her since a little after picking the girls up. Very unlike her not to contact me.

I also just checked the news just now and there was a murder yesterday up the street from her (my former) house. A woman was shot, and a man died from being shot. Another man was arrested, and one of the TV stations released his name but I don't know him. Getting a little concerned...

She may just have a dead cell phone or another issue.
I would wait a few hours and then call the police.
When is she supposed to pick up the kids? What time?

So I finally hear back from her. This is her text:

I'm not in town. Figured you'd be keeping them for the long weekend. Late afternoon tomorrow?

So she ASSUMES that I will watch them through Monday WITHOUT asking if I am working (I was supposed to). Not everyone has tomorrow off like the post office does (POSOM works there).

So she is off on some romantic getaway with the POSOM and I am supposed to Plan A? What an idiot I am. I've been an idiot from the day I met this woman.

Not only does she not care one iota about me, she doesn't seem to care about her own children, either, Just as long as she's getting the d*ck.

Shes just a selfish woman.
Just take a personal day or call in sick tomorrow to spend with your kids

Write back

I have work tomorrow!


If she texts back that she is away and can't get back to get the girls.....

text her

I will have to call in sick then. Oh well, more quality time with the girls.




Play it real. Communicate.

I am just about to forget the whole thing. I'll just watch her ruin her children's lives while I make ridiculous money and call it a day. I honestly don't know if this creature is worth the effort.

She used to call ME selfish all the time. I guess these kinds of people employ projection as just another means of justifying their behavior.

You should post her and OM on www.cheaterville.com

Er... what were you expecting from someone who is still in an active affair? Instant praise and adoration?

Simple respect isn't going to happen, even.

But, you know this...

These are the actions of an active wayward. It is what is going to happen.

That is what you have been told over...


... and over...


... and over...


... and over...


... and over...

... and over...

... and over...


... and over again.


These reactions of yours are why I told you to read TD's thread.

That wouldn't be very Plan A of me.

In Plan A you want to try to meet her emotional needs and kill the affair.
Exposure would help kill the affair.

I'm pretty sure everyone knows about it and doesn't care. Her family has done nothing whatsoever - their inaction condones the affair. This is New Mexico - the morality here is about one notch above Juarez, Mexico.

Well I would still post it but just be factual.
One post for her, one for OM.
On OM post you can write about what a low life scum he is. You need his picture to post too