I thought I would start this thread to make aware a relationship style that has seemingly been formalized to appear an improvement and from my understanding giving it a ethical twist.

Here is how I found out about 'Polyamory':

Last year I decided to hire an office assistant to free me up and get organized. I was in a spring clean mode. Received lots of applicants. One young woman seemed great. She had a business degree and had a start-up gal Friday type business she was developing. So she could be flexible w/dates and times of work and did not seem locked into set hour. This was good for me since I was not sure how much work I could offer her as it was a new job that mostly surrounded back logs of filing. I later learned 'flexible' was likely a operative word for her life style choices. Anyway this young late 20's woman's appearance was clean cut, conservative with maybe a little edge.

I decided to give her a try. Still, after checking out her facebook and business plan, I noted she was trying to also sell services as a life coach. This seemed odd because she was so young. I decided not to pay her as an employee on our payroll but as a independent contractor. She was OK w/that because she is flexible. This allowed me to try her out and see where she was coming from. Given she was going to be managing our business records I wanted to know her a bit.

At any rate, the first day she became comfortable talking with me about herself. She told me she was poly-amorous and told me what this meant.

Basically from what I gleaned from her, it means one can date several people at once and its all OK as long as you are open and honest about it to one another. Married or single.

She told me about a married male that hired her and over coffee one day flirted and asked her about dating him. She told him she was also attracted to him. She asked him if his wife would be OK if they dated and if she knew about his interest and desire. He said no and she then turned him down. She seemed to feel this ethical conduct. It would have been OK if his wife was on board or I'm guessing lead her to believe he had checked in with his wife. Basically she has lead herself to believe this is all highly sane and a level of maturity to strive for--that is to not feel jealousy.

To that end she is life coaching others. She told me she'd attended a weekend course to become certified. The name of the course: "Orgasmic Meditation" I'm not making this stuff up. You can google it if you have time. "A mind blowing week end."

All the while she is educating me, she is filing and organizing in the confines of my business office in front of me. I'm simply taking this in and hearing her out, sometimes asking questions.

At one point I discussed having documents shredded. She cheerfully volunteered 'working from home' from her boyfriends apartment. I showed her my in house commercial shredder and told her that would not be necessary.

Then she prompted herself to talk about her other boyfriend. From the sounds of it this was her primary relationship bond. She told me her boyfriends knew one another and the extent of their relationship with her. Each were OK she claims.

I asked her what her other boyfriend did. Who are these guys I'm wondering? She said this BF was in jail. (I'm feeling red flags.) She explained they went to business school together. He'd gotten into a illegal pot growing and selling business. But when medical MJ came along business went down. He'd gotten used to making money fast. So he hooked up with a group in AZ. They turned out to be Mexican Mafia. This group put him in a no win box ie do this or either be killed or go to jail.

Now I feel like I'm IN an episode of Breaking Bad for the day. While this girl is telling me this she again offers to take work home. She is basically offering, seemingly innocently, to take business records with our ID's, tax returns, statements and so on to her BF's apartment to file in her free time.

This sweet looking young girl has no boundaries for herself and others and is dillusional. A highway to trouble. Red flags are up. Are you going to send my confidential data to your prison friend for a fast buck I'm asking myself?

I was so glad I hired as a IC. I simply did not call her to come back. What a waste. First time I sort of dismissed someone for the sexual orientation so to speak!

Has anyone else heard of this type of sexual relationship agreement?

I have heard of these relationships. There was/is a show on a station(I can't remember) that is called "Polyamorous".

I watched for about 10 minutes before I couldn't stomach it anymore.

The show was about polyamorous relationships and how they work. This episode showed a woman who had a boyfriend living downstairs with their son and her husband upstairs.

It was the extreme of an "open marriage"/swinging. I couldn't do it.

Yes....my (ex) wife's former boyfriend lived in one of these...

AND anyone that is single and registered on a dating site gets contacted and matched to these people ALL THE TIME!

Oh yes, we have had it pop up here a few times over the years. I think the spin is so cute and clever!! Polymory is a cute and winsome name for ADULTERY. You can put lipstick on that pig but you still have a PIG.

adul�tery

: sex between a married person and someone who is not that person's wife or husband Websters dictionary

polymory=putting lipstick on a pig

The problem with these swingers [another cute name for adulterers] is that when women have sex with men they typically develop an emotional attachment. So what happens is the stupid husband who promoted swinging [or polymory or whatever retarded name they apply] shows up here crying like a baby that his wife is "having an affair" because she falls in the love with other adultery partner and soon is sneaking off to see him.

The husband gets hoisted on his own petard, in other words. And when he comes here crying, he gets NO SYMPATHY FROM ML!!

Dr. Harley has written articles about how this happens in swinging. Sometimes the women become sex addicts too.