I've been thinking about you and wondering if he has come home.<P>You can email me at jessatwork@ev1.net if you would rather.<P>Psalms 46:1<BR>God is our refuge and strength, an ever present help in trouble.

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!<P>I am worried sick now. I called a couple of his friends and they weren't in. I don't know what to do. But I know myself if he isn't here soon then when he gets here I'll probably blow a gasket. I tend to forget to check my e-mail plus my H has access. Thanks I'll remember yours and hold on to it just in case he is not here by 9:00 p.m.

Remember to breath.<P>I am going to evening Church services. I will check back later tonight.

If you don't here from me at 9:00 p.m. You know came home cross your fingers!

Essyboo its 9:45 no word I am getting worried. None of his friends are answering their phone his mother hasn't herd from him. What to do ?????? I think if he walked through the door at this moment I would be just happy to see him then I would yell where the h*** you've been!

Okay too choices 1. since none of his friends are answering maybe they are out together. 2 This is the one I don't like but I got to say because you are thinking it could he be with the OW? I hope with all my heart it is the first. <BR>When did he leave and why? I read through the post but must have missed the explanation. Hang in there.<P>------------------<BR>di<P>

12:50 a.m. no husband. One of his friends called around 10:00 p.m. said yeah he had saw him and he was very smug about it I wanted to reach into the phone and ring his d*#* neck. I got the feeling that my husband was there while he was talking with me. I didn't ask. I honestly don't think he is with or had been with the ow.

Essyboo its 1:30 no husband but I am going to sign off because I have to be up at 5:00 to get ready for work. I probably check back in at 7:00pm tomorrow (Monday). Thanks for caring!

Sorry to jump in guys. Spicey2 I know you're worried. Just keep on taking care of yourself.<P>You have spoken to someone who knows he's ok. That should help calm some of your fears, intensify the hurt, but calm your fears.<P>When my H left, I had no idea where he went and didn't hear from him for 2 weeks! It was several days before his family told me he was ok.<P>He needs the space right now too, probably. He won't call right away to see how you're handling this. He's handling his own demons and hurt. <P>Time for you to keep being strong, ok? You can do this.<P>Hope you hear from him soon.<P>Lori

H came to the houde sometime today. I left a note for him. He explained that he spent Friday getting drunk and he tried to kill himself but his friends stopped him. He said he can't face me right now. I know he is hurting but I need him too. Maybe he'll come home tonight will let you guys know. Pray for me!

Hey Spicey2, chin up. I know how hard it is. They have to deal with their demons and even though it kills you, maybe its better that he comes home in a better place to work on you life together.My H also had suicidal moments, pretty scary. Just hang on. Take care of yourself. Get your ducks in a row. So many are thinking of you...

Spicey2 - I'm thinking of you too. Hang in there.<P>Lori

H is home just walk through the door. Very scared don't know how to act. I fell like a school girl. HELLLLLLLLLP!!!!!!! Tell me what to do this is very awkard. Please help! I am very nervous. My heart is beating really fast!

Breath my dear breath. Keep your mind on the goal.<P>He is where he belongs now.<P>Listen to your heart, not your pride.

One other thing.<P>He is with you new. That means so much, more than you can possibly realize at this point.<P>Remember you are dealing with the pride of a Man.<P>He came home. That meant going against his pride and he did this for you because of his feelings for you.<P>Take heart. You can do this because you will find the strength.

Spicey2,<P>Hey! Hang on! He's hurting to, obviously if he treatened suicide. Just try to muster up the energy to forgive and love and he needs to know you need him! That may be the saving grace for him, that you still have a place in your heart for him.<BR>Keep us posted you and H are in our prayers!<BR>Love and Hope <BR>Mater

Spicey2<P>I sure hope that since you didn't get back on last night that is a good sign.<P>I will be watching the forum off and all throughout the day. I can read things from work, but have trouble finding time to post.<P>I will check back tonight to see how you are.<P>Take care and my prayers and hopes are with you.<P>My H has been reading too and he is also very concerned for you both.<P>This is one of the worst times, but it can get better, hang in there (that is from us both)<P>

Well it was very awarkd to say the least. It was like when we first started dating neither of us knowing how to act. I finally broke the ice by telling him, that I realized that I wasn't the only one that this has happen to. That there is a 6o% chance that someone I know will have an affair or go through an affair. I gave him some material to read on Surviving An Affair. He read for alittle while than he begin to open up. He told how it started out that she was someone that he didn't like and he got drunk when a group of people from work went out and told her how unhappy he was (I asked why he couldn't tell me and he said he didn't know "kinda puzzled at this") Anyway after this happen she started doing things for him. Bringing him dinner at work and just being there every time he turned around. He told her than that he wsn't going to leave me and he didn't like her in that way. She said that she didn'y like him that way she just knew what he was going through because she had been there herself. That he could call her anytime to talk. He felt a relief talking with her. He said it gave him some insight into a womans' mind. I asked him if he couldn't tell that she was after something and he said no. After she assured him that she didn't think of him that way he let his guard down. It took 2 years but he started thinking about how she was there for him and stopped thinking about me constantly. I haven't exactly found out how they got from being friends and sleeping together.<BR> I am angry at her because I feel she manipulated him and used him. I am angry at him because he couldn't see it. Is my judgement right?

Essyboo making sure that you get the update!

Spicey2,<P>I am so glad your H came home. My H and I were both so happy.<P>Your feelings are very normal. You have every right to feel you H was manipulated. You may never truly know the motives of the OW. She may have been caught up too. <P>Eventually you H will see it for what it really was. I feel it was a cry for help on his part and a fall into weakness.<P>I'm recommending the impossible, but do your best. Concentrate on you and him now and what you need to do to heal and help him heal.<P>The situation was bad no matter what anybodies motives were. It really doesn't matter if she tricked him or fell into it by accident. It doesn't really matter if she planned all along to start an affair with him. He said that he faught if for a long time and it was a gradual transition. Just remember that he didn't set out to do this and he ended it. <P>My H truly felt the OW was not a factor anymore and has a hard time comprehending that she will always be a factor to me. It is something I will have to deal with and learn to control by keeping my mind on the goal we are trying to achieve.<P>He is back where he belongs, count your blessings for that and now work together to learn what to do to satisfy each other's needs.<P>Keep posting. Involve him in the fact that you are posting. I would like to tell you to encourage him to post as well, but I don't know you H well enough to know how that would work.<P>It would not work with my H, but me involving him in the stories and events on the forum has finally got him reading.<P>He actually got on today to find out what was happening with you. This afternoon when I came home and told him that your H came home he said "Yea, I know I read about it, I'm so glad for them."<P>He understands that this is helping me heal too.<P>Keep being strong Spicey2. Keep letting him love you.<P>Jessica