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I don't think you are understanding how this is supposed to work. You want exposure to have a tsunami effect! The opposite of trickle, drop, drop, drop, over several days effect as you are doing now...
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Did you check intelius? You pop in his name and it will show in one of the fields people that have been affiliated with him in the past. Sometimes parents and siblings show up there.
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I will do it today this evening at work, I do call her Dad, Step Mom, Brother and Sister, Mother, Step Father, Grandmothers right. and then to his contacts on FB
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I didn't tell My wife anything yet. I did that to buy me time.
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I didn't tell My wife anything yet. I did that to buy me time. Don't talk to her anymore until the exposure is all wrapped up. The only one that I exclude from that list is if OM's parents if it takes you some more time to find them.
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She is the first list idigirl, . OK, good. She just called me asking me what I told, my family, Oh yeah - exposure is bothering her. Should my family call her to hep perseude her. My family loves her. . Most certainly. If they met through the workplace and that's how the A started, then I would expose there. But I will let others chime in on this as I am not 100% sure if that's the right move. What does this mean? What is the likelihood of future contact? Wrap this all up today. I am very worried your WW is going to regroup, contact her family/friends before you reach them, and this isn't going to be very effective. Yes, shame can have very funny effects on people. You want to be running this show.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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I will do it today this evening at work, I do call her Dad, Step Mom, Brother and Sister, Mother, Step Father, Grandmothers right. and then to his contacts on FB In your exposures to his facebook contacts, I would ask the target to contact his parents and have them call you. you will have to pay $1 for the messages to be placed in their inboxrs. Hopefully you know this!! And Susie is right, exposure is supposed to be done in one day, not trickled out.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I know it should of been done in one day, I didn't expect someone to tell her prior to my plan of exposing it. I needed more time to get intel. I don't see anything about his parents in intelius etc... I do have his kids FB etc and friends..
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I know it should of been done in one day, I didn't expect someone to tell her prior to my plan of exposing it. I needed more time to get intel. I don't see anything about his parents in intelius etc... I do have his kids FB etc and friends.. Just go ahead and epxose to his family and friends. In your letter, ask them to have his parents call you and provide your #. So get everything done asap.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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WD, Try www.veromi.com I have good luck it will offer probable family connections for free. You can then use those probable connections to search facebook, linkedin, and etc. People CAN BE FOUND! I found good photos online of OM2 after a few years, by knowing his hobby. Get creative with your searching. God Bless Gamma
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I just sent out FB IM and called my father law, He said he was going to call her. Wife is calling my phone and sent this text,
"you crazy mother f****...you better not come home..
how do I handle this
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I have been exposing! God be with me
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I just sent out FB IM and called my father law, He said he was going to call her. Wife is calling my phone and sent this text,
"you crazy mother f****...you better not come home..
how do I handle this and then go home and tell your children. [don't ask your wife or forewarn her, just sit the kids down and tell them all about the affair and give them the name of the OM] Have you spoken to your MIL? Will she call her too? Any other exposure targets within her family? How many FB messages did you send out to the OM contacts? And did you pay the $1 to get it placed into their in box?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I have been exposing! God be with me Great job, my friend!! 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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HE IS!! Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. Ephesians 5:11 This is the verdict: Light has come into the world, but men loved darkness instead of light because their deeds were evil. Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that his deeds will be exposed. But whoever lives by the truth comes into the light, so that it may be seen plainly that what he has done has been done through God." ( John 3:19-21)
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I just sent out FB IM and called my father law, He said he was going to call her. Wife is calling my phone and sent this text,
"you crazy mother f****...you better not come home..
how do I handle this Carry on. Don't respond to silliness. She will continue to act like an aggressive drunk until the A is dead. Even then she has to get through withdrawal. This is her way of seeing if being mean and abusive will get you to back off so she can resume destroying herself. Of course you love her too much to allow that. Do as MelodyLane suggests showing that you are now running this show and the abuse isn't working. Be calm and polite if your paths cross later. Be loving if possible. However don't feel you have to stick around and take abuse. If she swears at you casually inform her not to do that in future please and take yourself off to do something else.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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"I am sorry your A embarrasses you"
"Would you like a cookie?"
"I am very serious about saving our marriage"
"I will not let an A destroy my marriage"
"You can never trust me to keep infidelity a secret. I would never encourage infidelity."
"I am very pleased so many people offer us their support"
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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She called me screaming and yelling at me that there will never be a chance and not to come home, she said she hates me and she will never forgive me, she was screaming at the top of her lungs, I have never heard her act like this, she continued to yell, I just told her that I did this to save our marriage. I never yelled etc.. she was furious she told me not to come home and i'm harrasing her etc.. what do I do now, WOW
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She was focused on who I told I told her best friend who is very spirtual and said she will call her. Wife also told me everyone thinks i'm crazy etc..
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She was focused on who I told I told her best friend who is very spirtual and said she will call her. Wife also told me everyone thinks i'm crazy etc.. Ignore, go home, sleep in your bed.
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