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I left the house to go to work and she still wasn't home. She did have to work today. I didn't check. I did clean the house up today. So if she comes home she will notice it. She loves when I clean the house...


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Originally Posted by wifedivorcing
I left the house to go to work and she still wasn't home. She did have to work today. I didn't check. I did clean the house up today. So if she comes home she will notice it. She loves when I clean the house...
Good Plan A.

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What about exposing to her workplace? She has contact with OM there, right?


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Originally Posted by wifedivorcing
At this point I won't give her an ultimatum, I will make sure she is in the house, if she leaves that's on her I can't stop her. She really does despise her dad. So should I tell what was said above about I'm trying to save my marriage..

I wouldn't say anything about that. It just gives her the opporunityt to say your actions won't save your marriage. And then she will make SURE it doesn't happen. Just let the chips fall where they may.

And just tell her that you have exposed to her dad, motehr, sister. Don't tell her the reaction. As far as she knows, everyone is against her affair.


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She just called me asking who picked my daughter up ETC...She continue to tell me I need to find another place to live, she even told me everyone thinks I'm crazy and they are worried about her safety, Unbalivable. She told me I was wrong for contacting his children they are adults but one is 16, I didint contact him. She said I'm trying to deystroy OM life and they never had an affair and then she asked me what evidence I have. I didn't tell her. I just continue to tell her, I know your angry I did this to save our marriage. I did tell her his Exwife contacted me and she would like to talk to her about him. She was like what you talk to her and then she got even madder, she is extremley angry, threatening to get a personal protection order against me, Plus what I did is liable and slander and I hope he goes after you. She told me I messed with the wrong women. I just continue to tell her I'm sorry she is angry and we can rebuild this marriage. she called me about 3 times spewing at me telling me there will never be an us, we our finished etc...


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She also told me I would throw this back in her face on monday, when my family found out about the affair first. Now she is saying nothing ever happened and she wants to know about what evidence I have today.


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She did ask if I come home she is leaving. I told her I can't stop you from doing anything, but you can stay at the house. I continue to tell her I'm sorry she is angry and that is starting to piss her off even more, she told me to shut the f up and stop saying that. My nervous are shot. I can't believe she is telling me I'm destroying his life and hurting his kids. According to the exwife it to her and the kids along time to heal from the affair.


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Thats great! She and the OM are just trying to find out how much you know. Just tell her she knows she is having an affair, you don't need to prove it to her.

What time will you be home?


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Originally Posted by wifedivorcing
She did ask if I come home she is leaving. I told her I can't stop you from doing anything, but you can stay at the house. I continue to tell her I'm sorry she is angry and that is starting to piss her off even more, she told me to shut the f up and stop saying that. My nervous are shot. I can't believe she is telling me I'm destroying his life and hurting his kids. According to the exwife it to her and the kids along time to heal from the affair.

Do you feel like you are talking to a falling down drunk or a crackhead?


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she kept calling me a sociopath and I'm crazy. She told me if she is in the house she doesn't feel safe. I told her I have never tried to harm you in anyway in a calm voice. etc...I'm at work, thank God.


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I get home around 12:45 am, so we will see what happens. I feel bad for all parties involved in this mess. It just sickens me and I want to wake up from this bad dream. I'm the sociopath?


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Originally Posted by wifedivorcing
she kept calling me a sociopath and I'm crazy. She told me if she is in the house she doesn't feel safe. I told her I have never tried to harm you in anyway in a calm voice. etc...I'm at work, thank God.

You know where this is leading, right? Her verbiage is a set up to get you charged with domestic violence. Be sure and carry a tape recorder in your pocket.

Women KNOW all they have to say to the cops is "I don't feel safe" and he is hauled off!!


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Originally Posted by wifedivorcing
I get home around 12:45 am, so we will see what happens. I feel bad for all parties involved in this mess. It just sickens me and I want to wake up from this bad dream. I'm the sociopath?

Have you been called names by drunks and dope heads when you arrested them for being high? Do you see how much alike the behavior is here?


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Yes I have been called names by all sorts of people. It doesn't make it any easier when it comes from your wife, ALIEN!


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She also told me to never contact her again in several of these phone calls. I will turn my vr on my phone when I get home so she doesn't claim assault allegations. Her attorney said its liable and slander for doing what I did.


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Originally Posted by wifedivorcing
Her attorney said its liable and slander for doing what I did.

Thats great!! She should just SUE you so you all can go to court and bring in all your evidence. What a fun time it will be when your attorney subpoenaes all her and the OM's emails, phone records, communications and puts them under oath to give sworn testimony. That, coupled with your wealth of evidence, will get all of the evidence on record in a court of law!

This will REALLY get the affair exposed and it would be picked up by newspapers! grin

Remind her that it is not against the law to tell the truth in the United States and that the truth is a defense to slander and libel.


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Originally Posted by wifedivorcing
Yes I have been called names by all sorts of people. It doesn't make it any easier when it comes from your wife, ALIEN!

So you recognize that her mindset is EXACTLY the same as the drunks and dopers?

I will just say that I am STONE SOBER when I call your ilk names,[behind your back of course grin] but that would cease if you would stop entrapping me in speed traps. sigh


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It is also against the LAW to commit perjury in a court of law, so when she is under oath giving sworn testimony about her affair, she would HANG herself if she lies.


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Originally Posted by wifedivorcing
Her attorney said its liable and slander for doing what I did.

Is she going to call the police on you? laugh


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I'm sitting here at work in an awwwww! I just don't know what to think anymore. My mind feels like its going to explode...

My brother just called and he said she packed up some clothes and left the house...


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