well just another installment in my crazy life, my H and I are now separated and I don't know where hes living. He has been running all over town with the OW. And our entire church knows and things are just in an uproar because he was vice-president of the congregation and she was sunday school superintendent at one time. Get this, she emails me an apology and wants us to be FRIENDS. Then today I go to my son's soccer game and they show up together, holding hands and shes wearing the H's college ring they are acting like teenagers. Do I need more humiliation? I said bye I am leaving. <BR>If anyone has advice for me I would appreciate it. I am letting him handle the divorce because I just can't do it. This is so sad because I still love the H but this kind of thing will surely kill my love over time I guess.<P>------------------<BR>joanne<BR>

Joanne, I can only post briefly. I just want you to know I prayed for you. It sounds like things are really sad right now and I wanted you to know people do care. As you probably know, the weekend is kind of slow for postings.<P>Be strong and be kind to yourself,<P>His Pearl of Great Price<BR>formerly<BR>Liz Smith<P>------------------<BR><BR>"I have found the Pearl of Great Price"<BR>

Joanne,<P>what a hurtful thing for you to have to endure. My H and I are also separated, so I understand how you feel, although my H's OW is in FL, not GA. <P>I will pray for you. This is really tough for you and your kids. At least know that we all care about you...<P>Roll me Away

Hi Joanne,<BR> Yikes, he sounds like he is going crazy....when is the D supposed to happen? Can you slow it down?....he is bound to crash and burn with the way he is acting. Are you getting support from church members? This sounds like an awful thing to go through ...Lu

What a horrible thing to do! That must have been terrible for you and your son. Sometimes I think it was better in the old days when you were allowed to shoot both the spouse and the OP if you found them together.

thank you all who are praying for me. yes i am getting a lot of support from my church family. Everyone is so shocked and hurt over all this , especially me.I am letting him do the filing for divorce, I don't know why he hasn't done it already. I am really concerned for the children involved, my son is 16 and knows right from wrong and I think he has already lost some respect for his dad from all this. The OW has three younger children at home they are 4 , 8 and 11 and they are so confused it seems because their father is gone , (he is living with his OW)<BR>It is such a mess but God is getting me through all this.<P>------------------<BR>joanne<BR>

My H has been on our congregational council for 4 years--though he hasn't attended for 1 1/2 years, while his affair has been going on.<P>If you wait for him to file, you'll probably be waiting a long time. He doesn't actually "need" a divorce, since the OW is married as well, they can't get married anyway. All is fantasy and the reality of divorce with children, money, possessions disrupts the fantasy.<P>She isn't your "friend". Friends don't "do" their friend's spouses. She's a skank. <P>I don't even know your H, but his behavior makes me want to beat him with a stick.<P>God will get you through this. You are safely nestled in his hands right this minute.<P><P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Do not get tired of doing what is right, for after awhile you will reap a harvest of blessings if you do not get discouraged and give up. (Gal 6:9)<P>

Joanne,<P>Do be prepared to protect your 16 year old. My son was also 16 when my W was discovered this past April... and he too knew right from wrong... If it wasn't for my older son my 2 younger (10 yo boy and 7 yo girl) could/would have been taken away from me (so say all the attorneys!)<P>It is <B>great</B> that H hasn't done anything with an attorney yet... but you need to get yourself ready. Find a <B>good</B> attorney by using the <A HREF="http://lawyers.martindale.com/marhub/form/by.html" TARGET=_blank>Martindale-Hubbell</A> lawyers search site. Search in your county for only "family law" lawyers... and get some free advice... get a lawyer who works with many family law committees and boards... and knows the judges! Operate from a position of strength.... No love busters... leave that to the attorneys and judges!<P>You don't have to file now... but if H files... you'll be ready. Your son needs to be protected (and <B>you</B> might need it too!)<P>My situation required me to counter-file... because I had custody issues you may not have!<P>My wife is also flaunting her behavior... just yesterday she brings OM and OM's daughter to my son's Tae Kwon Do competition! See <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/009289.html" TARGET=_blank>Son did great! Encounter with OM over!</A> for how I handled it. You sound like your a little newer and the hurt is fresher... I'm so sorry about that! You are cared for here.<P>Learn from us... post... vent... question.<P>We are all in the same boat here. <P>Jim<BR>------------------<BR>I can dare myself... I'll put a pebble in my shoe...<BR>I can walk... I can walk! I shall call the pebble Dare...<BR>Dare shall be carried... And when we both have had enough<BR>I will take him from my shoe, singing... "Meet your new road!"...<BR>Finally glad... Finally glad... That you are here... By my side...

Lol whats a skank? sorry i guess i am naive about all this. A lot of people want to beat him with a stick. Thanks for making me laugh a bit it just struck me funnnnny. Feeling better now and ready to tackle the day.<P>------------------<BR>joanne<BR>