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Why do I always feel what I'm about to do, feels so wrong???

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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
"Sally, very hurt and disappointed to learn that your affair has never ended. According to reliable sources you have been going to the OM's house after you drop SS at school and spent the night there on Friday night. Other reports are that your car was seen at his pharmacy. When will this ever end?"

When was the last time she was there?

I changed one line up there.


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Originally Posted by wifedivorcing
Why do I always feel what I'm about to do, feels so wrong???

Because we are not wired to CAUSE conflict, and it is your job to create conflict in the affair.

Just think how impactful this will be. They will know that they cannot hide their affair any longer and they are being watched. That will be so awesome!


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do you think it is better to text her or just tell her on the phone.


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i'm not a big fan of text trails


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I'd like to plan A her and then dump it on her.


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Originally Posted by wifedivorcing
do you think it is better to text her or just tell her on the phone.
Text so she can show OM!!!


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I'm sure she will call me right after I send that text.


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Originally Posted by wifedivorcing
I'd like to plan A her and then dump it on her.

Keep in mind that causing conflict in the affair is part of Plan A.

I wanted you to text her so she would read it to the OM. In her panic, I don't want her to forget what you said.


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What if they take the car to a garage and have someone look for the GPS.


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I sent it so I'm sure I will be getting a call or something


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if she ask me for my source, I'm just going to say, I got an annoynmous call from a concerned neighbor.


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Originally Posted by wifedivorcing
What if they take the car to a garage and have someone look for the GPS.

They may do that. But keep in mind the purpose of intel is to bust up the affair. If it is not used for that purpose, then it is worthless. I think you will throw them off by virtue of the fact that several days have passed since this happened. I am hopeful that they will suspect watchful neighbors who "heard" about the affair.

Isn't it incredibly stupid to deny an affair to everyone and then brazenly continue to see each other? I get the sense that the OM thinks he is immune. Your wife is fogged out; the OM is brazenly arrogant.


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she sent back "stalking him is illegal and this will be reported thank you for putting this in black and white" I never syalked him. I was in the hospital


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Originally Posted by wifedivorcing
she sent back "stalking him is illegal and this will be reported thank you for putting this in black and white" I never syalked him. I was in the hospital

"you need to take that up with the OM's neighbors. You seem to forget I was in the hospital. All my love, WD"

Now, she will call the OM and go crazy.. grin


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It amazes me how she is sticking up for him, How did I stalk him, what is she talking about, did she even read the dang text.


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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
Originally Posted by wifedivorcing
she sent back "stalking him is illegal and this will be reported thank you for putting this in black and white" I never syalked him. I was in the hospital

"you need to take that up with the OM's neighbors. You seem to forget I was in the hospital. All my love, WD"

Now, she will call the OM and go crazy.. grin

I sent that text above. Really I'm stalking him? what was she thinking, better yet she wasn't.


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she just told me that she forward the message to the Sgt. at our medical section. really did I break a law, is this how I'm going to be treated that I'm crazy. These people are off there rockers.


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Originally Posted by wifedivorcing
she just told me that she forward the message to the Sgt. at our medical section. really did I break a law, is this how I'm going to be treated that I'm crazy. These people are off there rockers.

Sounds like you hit a nerve!!


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I sent her back, "I can't stop people's neighbors from giving information freely"


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