I still think you need to play with her and the OM by spoon feeding them information about "sightings" from onlookers.

How about calling her GF and telling her about these sightings in the hopes she will feed it to your wife?

Wait and see if your wife reacts. If she doesn't react, then send her a text saying:

"another report from OM's neighborhood that you were seen at his house yesterday at 9 am and then again at 7pm. Please end your affair now!"

And I would do this BEFORE she comes home so they don't suspect you are retrieving something from the car.

Can you identify a leader at a higher level in the church hierarchy to call? Go over the head of the level where OM has applied spin control.

How about calling pastor's wife?

You can be relentless too!

"as your loving husband it grieves me tremendously to see you being used as a booty call for an uncaring, disrespectful man who is just using you."

You just feel like you are losing because you haven't seen how this plays out. You do have a strategy and that is to continue to look for opportunities to make lovebank deposits and continue to compete with this selfish, thoughtless turd.

Their affair is crumbling as we speak because of your exposure. They are boxed into a corner right now and the traits that made the affair possible, thoughtlessness, selfishness and deceit will eventually make their way into the affair. This guy is a user and a loser and that will become clear soon enough.

This affair can't go far because your wife will have to keep this a secret or she will be proven a LIAR. So what does she do? Continue to hide like a cockroach?

95% of affairs die within 2 years. 65% of marriages don't end over affairs. So guess who my money is on??

You just need to chill and do your best to show that you are the best option. You ARE the best option over this scumbag. [/quote

Thanks Mel, you know how to pump me up. 2yrs is a long time. I sure hope this one dies fast. I think I'm going to get the homless guys with signs saying STOP THE ADULTERY OM as they walk back and forth infront of the church, of course on the public sidewalk, I will pay them good. Good old fashion freedom of speech

when she speaks of selling house tell her to talk to her lawyer not you.
I agree with Melody she needs to know you have real proof of the timelines right now she may think you are bluffing and the times and dates just luckily match up.
They will believe a second sighting
Nice her to death I don't know how you deal with it the lies, I guess being a cop helps I would want to wring her neck by now�..I do remember when I went through i had a calmness about me too. Don't know how I guess we just know if we don't carry them when they are so lost and stand up for the family it will crumble, and we will lose our marriages but it's hard�

stay strong

Any chance you could get OM XW to call GF to report the sighting of WW?

That would really throw WW off the scent of where the reports are coming from!

Also XW could spin it as not wanting OM to ruin more lives. Could play well with GF.

And believe me, if I thought this was hopeless I would tell you. There are no guarantees but you have a good chance of getting her back.


I would not picket his church, I would go for his BUSINESS.

Steve Harley gave this advice to a doctor on our forum whose wife was having an affair with a guy who owned a landscape nursery:

I just printed the playerblock of him I think I will print a few hundred and have them delivered near his business, etc.. I should have them delivered in his neighborhood.

I jus talk to WW I was making small talk and she questioned it why are you talking to me, isaid just alking, asked how SS was doing in math and asked if we can get him another tooter, any time I said we or us, she said there is no we, she would wall up for a second but then continued to talk to me about SS. I sent him a pic of DD on the go-kart, I told he needs to drive it and have some fun. they are on there way here.

Great!!

LOOK for an opportunity to let slip that you know she was with the OM yesterday. She needs to know people are watching.

Wife is here. If looks could kill. I started talking to her and she like what is wrong with you, you're crazy you want to talk to me now but you didn't yesterday. I just told her that I had to digest the pain I felt when I found out she was with OM when I was in the hospital. She told me if I only new half of it and it's not what you think. I asked to go ahead and tell me. I'm listening so maybe I can understand it. She refused. I told her that I care about her and SS and if she stopped her affair we can rebuild this marriage and family. She started to say I'm only going to.talk to you about divorce how about that. I told her I know she was seen again at his house. She kept who is following me I'm going to get a PPO. She even said what do you have a GPS on my car. I just listened. She threaten to hit me if I didn't get out of her face. I then asked about her nails. I said wow those are nice. She shower them to me. I touched her cheek like there was something on it. She let me. She is angry though. I went outside to take a break. SS gave me dirty looks and locked himself in his bedroom. The wife told me to get it through my thick head we are getting divorced. I never raised my voice so she said I'm crazy and I do need the drugs they wanted to give me she said the only reason I got out was because of her. That hurt. I just smiled. And walked away.

Why is she here cleaning this house. I already cleaned it. It smelled like warm cake. I asked her ifshe wanted some she said no. I don't want anything from you. She is pretty pissed.

Are you still carrying a VAR on you while she is around?

She's now taking pictures of the kitchen with her cell phone. I believe a releator would take there own picture. I can see the anger in face. Just so ugly.

[quote=BrainHurts]Are you still carrying a VAR on you while she is around? [/quote

Yes I have my var on.

Love it!! Good job. Be sure and sign out of MB when you leave the computer.

I noticed my WW allergies were bothering her so I got her an allergy pill and a glass of water, She somewhat jokingly said what are trying to do kill me. I told her I love my marriage and family. I'm just wanting to keep it together. She told me I scare her with my behavior, I asked how am I doing this. She said because I'm not getting my way and I'll probably kill her. I again just said I'm just wanting to keep our family together , she said just give up.

I'm on my cell phone and I cleared all the history from pc

WD,

Just a thought. Is there a possibility that WW is recording you, hoping to get you to say something about killing her, so she could get you into the hospital again?

AM

WD
Didnt you say in your state Adultery is a crime still on the books.
Why dont you go that route next week, figure out how to file a complaint for that and push it through.
Your wife is acting like a child. Her actions are all bratty teenage responses.
You are doing great. CALM and COOL as a cucumber.