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He absolutely should not leave his home. That just gives her an opportunity to come in and lock him out. For no reason.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt
I won't leave Mel, I understand what ICGB is saying. I'm not going to leave, she can come back anytime, POSOM probably doesn't like it, but who cares what he likes. I'm still trying to figure out her motive for coming over. Is there something coming, that I don't know about, maybe this clown is going come after me civily. who knows.
ME46 WW 38 D-day 2/13/14
Ephesians 5:11-13 11 Do not participate in the unfruitful deeds of darkness, but rather expose them.
I've been following your thread from the beginning. You're doing amazing. I am the BS and for 4 months my FWH enjoyed having his OW during the day and enjoying me and his family at night. After 3 months from DD, my adult daughter called the OW to let her know he was home with me every night. During month 4, OW finally showed her true colors and my FWH caught her in bed with another man. Keep up the Plan A, your OM will soon show his true colors.
BTW, I got the phone # of your OM from playerblock.com and let him know by text what I thought of him. I hope others do too.
Bikerwife
Me (BW) 63 FWH 59 Married 30 years FWH EA 2007 - 2011 FWH PA July, 2011 - November, 2011 False Recovery Dec, 2012 - July 14, 2016 3 adult children, 4 granddaughters and 1 grandson
BTW, I got the phone # of your OM from playerblock.com and let him know by text what I thought of him. I hope others do too.
Bikerwife
FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
I've been following your thread from the beginning. You're doing amazing. I am the BS and for 4 months my FWH enjoyed having his OW during the day and enjoying me and his family at night. After 3 months from DD, my adult daughter called the OW to let her know he was home with me every night. During month 4, OW finally showed her true colors and my FWH caught her in bed with another man. Keep up the Plan A, your OM will soon show his true colors.
BTW, I got the phone # of your OM from playerblock.com and let him know by text what I thought of him. I hope others do too.
Bikerwife
Someone put him on playerblock too. I'm sure I'll get blamed for it.
ME46 WW 38 D-day 2/13/14
Ephesians 5:11-13 11 Do not participate in the unfruitful deeds of darkness, but rather expose them.
FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
Was she keeping you occupied while the son slipped some spyware on your computer or set up a VAR?
No he actually was in his room hand writing his paper, she used her laptop and she actually typed it. I dont have office on my pc. She hasn't used a lap top in this house for some time. I will check the house out myself. I usually don't talk in the house much.
Something doesnt make sense. Why did she come to your house if she used her own computer? She was there for a reason
In SAA, the WW, Sue, moved out and left her husband, Jon. She then moved back in pretending to be all gung ho about recovery. Once she got back in, she changed the locks, threw him out and got him legally barred from his home.
Was she keeping you occupied while the son slipped some spyware on your computer or set up a VAR?
No he actually was in his room hand writing his paper, she used her laptop and she actually typed it. I dont have office on my pc. She hasn't used a lap top in this house for some time. I will check the house out myself. I usually don't talk in the house much.
Something doesnt make sense. Why did she come to your house if she used her own computer? She was there for a reason
My laptop doesn't have office on it, plus my laptop was in my car. She never left my sight. I checked everywhere. I can only think that she doesn't want to use GF stuff. She did complain how she is free loading at GF. I don't know what this is about.
ME46 WW 38 D-day 2/13/14
Ephesians 5:11-13 11 Do not participate in the unfruitful deeds of darkness, but rather expose them.
In SAA, the WW, Sue, moved out and left her husband, Jon. She then moved back in pretending to be all gung ho about recovery. Once she got back in, she changed the locks, threw him out and got him legally barred from his home.
She sure did throw him out. So you're saying don't leave for two days the locks might be changed and thrown out, what the heck I could handle that, why not on top of everything else.
At this point, since you are in future litigation about sale of the house etc., you cannot make any impression that you are no longer occupying the residence. Dont leave unless your attorney says you can. (except to work of course)
I won't leave Mel, I understand what ICGB is saying. I'm not going to leave, she can come back anytime, POSOM probably doesn't like it, but who cares what he likes. I'm still trying to figure out her motive for coming over. Is there something coming, that I don't know about, maybe this clown is going come after me civily. who knows.
Since her lover is a phramacist, it is also possible that she planted drugs somewhere and will try to set you up for a bust.
In SAA, the WW, Sue, moved out and left her husband, Jon. She then moved back in pretending to be all gung ho about recovery. Once she got back in, she changed the locks, threw him out and got him legally barred from his home.
She sure did throw him out. So you're saying don't leave for two days the locks might be changed and thrown out, what the heck I could handle that, why not on top of everything else.
At this point, since you are in future litigation about sale of the house etc., you cannot make any impression that you are no longer occupying the residence. Dont leave unless your attorney says you can. (except to work of course)
I wont be leaving my house at all. Her laptop has been here the whole time, she never uses it except for SS homework, She would usually use my laptop, much faster. we had a good evening tho... Not sure what is going on.
ME46 WW 38 D-day 2/13/14
Ephesians 5:11-13 11 Do not participate in the unfruitful deeds of darkness, but rather expose them.
I won't leave Mel, I understand what ICGB is saying. I'm not going to leave, she can come back anytime, POSOM probably doesn't like it, but who cares what he likes. I'm still trying to figure out her motive for coming over. Is there something coming, that I don't know about, maybe this clown is going come after me civily. who knows.
Since her lover is a phramacist, it is also possible that she planted drugs somewhere and will try to set you up for a bust.
I will look for drugs, she never went into anything here, she went to the bathroom twice and she went in one cabinet when I was right next to her.
ME46 WW 38 D-day 2/13/14
Ephesians 5:11-13 11 Do not participate in the unfruitful deeds of darkness, but rather expose them.
EDIT: The vehicle would probably be the ideal place to plant anything, so a traffic cop could search it.
I would also be very careful of any potential poisoning; OM has access to all sorts of poisons and she showed her values when she jumped in the sack with OM after getting you locked away in a mental hospital
I don't necessarily think she was there with malicious intention, but I can understand why other readers here are worried...given that you spent 5 days locked up in the cuckoo's nest.
You have been very smart about this whole thing.
The suspicions of some of the readers tonight remind me of this:
