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We have been together 8 yrs, married for 5. Recently i discovered he has a porn habit but i am worried he is an addict. I looked through his search on advanced search on his phone as he deletes the normal history. Anyway there must have been over 30 porn sites there. He only had the phone 5 mths so its a fair amount. This is after i found out he indulged in porn when i was preg with my son. He said he had stopped but obviously not. I confronted him but it just caused a row.
The porn he is accessing is teen stuff (hevis 33) and fetish stuff. He is very vanilla in bed so i am shocked to say the least.
I also discovered instagram and tumblr accounts he created to access porn there. He has since got rid of those. Am i bring unreasonable but i can't get past this. I am trying but its hard. Anyone else in similar position? Any advice?
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I man but I would treat his porn like an affair because it is. I would then go through the steps in surviving an affair. Porn is his mistress and there is no way your marriage could survive with her in his life. She need to be exposed and cut out of his life. I would share this with your family and his family, any close friends, church leadership if you go to church, and you kids if they are old enough to understand so you could get support and the affair could die (but not as a punishment).
Read Surviving an affair if you haven't already.
Me 40M
Wife 43F
3 kids 9M, 5M, 1F
Together 15 yrs, Married 10 yrs, live together most of our dating life. Did not live together our year of our engagement. Working hard to fall more in love with my wife.
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We have been together 8 yrs, married for 5. Recently i discovered he has a porn habit but i am worried he is an addict. I looked through his search on advanced search on his phone as he deletes the normal history. Anyway there must have been over 30 porn sites there. He only had the phone 5 mths so its a fair amount. This is after i found out he indulged in porn when i was preg with my son. He said he had stopped but obviously not. I confronted him but it just caused a row.
The porn he is accessing is teen stuff (hevis 33) and fetish stuff. He is very vanilla in bed so i am shocked to say the least.
I also discovered instagram and tumblr accounts he created to access porn there. He has since got rid of those. Am i bring unreasonable but i can't get past this. I am trying but its hard. Anyone else in similar position? Any advice? Welcome to MB. Is he still denying his porn habit? No you're not being unreasonable.
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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