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I've been married for a year to someone I've known since we were kids. I was friends with his wife, too, who died 3 years ago. We travel a lot and I know he's trying to get over his grief, but I just don't feel married to him. I feel like we are buddies. The truth is I love him as a friend, but I'm not attracted to him physically or sexually. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I miss my old life/friends, and wish we had stayed friends. He needs me more than I need him. I don't even want to use his last name, so I've kept my maiden name. I think I made a mistake marrying him. What do I do?
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I've been married for a year to someone I've known since we were kids. I was friends with his wife, too, who died 3 years ago. We travel a lot and I know he's trying to get over his grief, but I just don't feel married to him. I feel like we are buddies. The truth is I love him as a friend, but I'm not attracted to him physically or sexually. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I miss my old life/friends, and wish we had stayed friends. He needs me more than I need him. I don't even want to use his last name, so I've kept my maiden name. I think I made a mistake marrying him. What do I do? Welcome to MB. Why did you marry him?
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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I was living with a guy who was not moving toward marrying me and my husband was lonely. I thought I would grow to love him romantically, and although he's showered me with lots of travel and a new car (Porsche 911) as a wedding gift, I still don't love him romantically. Maybe in time I will. Maybe I just wanted to be taken care of and have a husband. I don't know whether to tell him or keep it to myself.
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If you follow this program, it could lead you both to a romantic marriage regardless of whether or not you ever loved him romantically.
How much time alone together do you get each week? Doing what?
Do you argue and fight?
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