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If she hasn't moved home, the affair is not over.
Also, it's not uncommon for a FWW to not really want to go through with the plan and for the husband to have to do a lot of pump-priming. Dr. Harley frequently suggests seeing your doctor to get antidepressants prescribed short term. It's usually better to try this before going to Plan B, because Plan B doesn't usually make a wife decide to recover the marriage. I have been really trying to "prime the pump". It is very difficult to do at this point in time considering she is still living at her parents and the stress of not really having a set schedule with the kids anymore. Not to mention it still seems like she could care less. Are you serious about the antidepressants? Never been on anything like that.
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I would expose to his contacts and to his parents and most especially to the military (instructions on my exposure thread) Adultery is illegal in the military.
You should also get in touch with his wife and keep open communication with her. Could you please respond? Thanks, ML
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I would expose to his contacts and to his parents and most especially to the military (instructions on my exposure thread) Adultery is illegal in the military.
You should also get in touch with his wife and keep open communication with her. Could you please respond? Thanks, ML I can do this. Just need to figure out who to contact and contact information. Will work on getting that info today sometime.Can not view his FB page but will see if I can figure out a way around that.
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I would expose to his contacts and to his parents and most especially to the military (instructions on my exposure thread) Adultery is illegal in the military.
You should also get in touch with his wife and keep open communication with her. Could you please respond? Thanks, ML I can do this. Just need to figure out who to contact and contact information. Will work on getting that info today sometime.Can not view his FB page but will see if I can figure out a way around that. You can make a fake account and view it like that or get a little more devious and make a fake account pretending to be a sexy single woman and send him a friend request. I did the latter and it worked lol.
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Was exposed in the office ... at least on my side. OM is enlisted person. I have been blocked from his FB page. No I never exposed to his family/friends. I contacted his wife after the incident back in November of last year never got a response. I do know that him and his wife have been separated for some time now. He was still living with her when the communication between them started. As far as family on our side I believe I have told everyone. All of her close friends already knew about it and were supporting her in it "As long as your happy I am happy for you" that kind of crap. You need to contact the INSPECTOR GENERAL FOR YOUR REGION! Report this scum bag. Are you in the military as well? http://www.daig.pentagon.mil/
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I got out back in 2009 when we had our first child.
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Complaint Form
Thank you for using the online complaint form. Your information will be reviewed and if you have provided sufficient information a case will be entered and a case number will be generated. If you have provided your contact info you will be contacted.
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If she hasn't moved home, the affair is not over.
Also, it's not uncommon for a FWW to not really want to go through with the plan and for the husband to have to do a lot of pump-priming. Dr. Harley frequently suggests seeing your doctor to get antidepressants prescribed short term. It's usually better to try this before going to Plan B, because Plan B doesn't usually make a wife decide to recover the marriage. I have been really trying to "prime the pump". It is very difficult to do at this point in time considering she is still living at her parents and the stress of not really having a set schedule with the kids anymore. Not to mention it still seems like she could care less. Are you serious about the antidepressants? Never been on anything like that. He is serious about the antidepressants. Priming the pump is a very difficult thing on you emotionally. The antidepressants will help even out your emotions so that you can do what you need to do with a level head, helping you remain calm and to avoid the Lovebusters.
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If she hasn't moved home, the affair is not over.
Also, it's not uncommon for a FWW to not really want to go through with the plan and for the husband to have to do a lot of pump-priming. Dr. Harley frequently suggests seeing your doctor to get antidepressants prescribed short term. It's usually better to try this before going to Plan B, because Plan B doesn't usually make a wife decide to recover the marriage. I have been really trying to "prime the pump". It is very difficult to do at this point in time considering she is still living at her parents and the stress of not really having a set schedule with the kids anymore. Not to mention it still seems like she could care less. Are you serious about the antidepressants? Never been on anything like that. He is serious about the antidepressants. Priming the pump is a very difficult thing on you emotionally. The antidepressants will help even out your emotions so that you can do what you need to do with a level head, helping you remain calm and to avoid the Lovebusters. You are preparing for war. Antidepressants are part of your armor.
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Hmm So what do I do just go to the doctor (I never go) and ask him to prescribe me some antidepressants? I'm not much on taking meds. Guess I really need to get to reading the Lovebusters book.
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Are there any templates on how to tell OM wife? I'm really not sure what to say to her. I seriously doubt that it will even matter considering they are separated and going the route of divorce from what I have been told.
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Yes, go to your doctor and tell him what's going on. Tell him you want antidepressants to help you make level headed decisions.
Dr. Harley often recommends Welbutrin because it hardly has any side affects.
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Ok so from the replies that I have gotten on here I believe I should stick out in Plan A for a while longer. My biggest question is how in the world am I supposed to continue on with that when she is still living at her mothers. It absolutely infuriates me that she is putting our children through this and don't know how to convince her to work on the marriage let alone move home. It's all very frustrating to say the least. I can handle the pain that she is/has put me through (never wanted to still don't) but when my children ask on a daily basis when mommy is coming home and all the whys and I wish mommy was here, It kills me to see them like this.
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If she hasn't moved home, the affair is not over.
Also, it's not uncommon for a FWW to not really want to go through with the plan and for the husband to have to do a lot of pump-priming. Dr. Harley frequently suggests seeing your doctor to get antidepressants prescribed short term. It's usually better to try this before going to Plan B, because Plan B doesn't usually make a wife decide to recover the marriage. I have been really trying to "prime the pump". It is very difficult to do at this point in time considering she is still living at her parents and the stress of not really having a set schedule with the kids anymore. Not to mention it still seems like she could care less. Are you serious about the antidepressants? Never been on anything like that. Absolutely serious! Your regular doctor can prescribe them. Just tell him you need some help evening out the emotional high and lows so you can focus on doing what you need to do to save your marriage.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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Ok so from the replies that I have gotten on here I believe I should stick out in Plan A for a while longer. My biggest question is how in the world am I supposed to continue on with that when she is still living at her mothers. It absolutely infuriates me that she is putting our children through this and don't know how to convince her to work on the marriage let alone move home. It's all very frustrating to say the least. I can handle the pain that she is/has put me through (never wanted to still don't) but when my children ask on a daily basis when mommy is coming home and all the whys and I wish mommy was here, It kills me to see them like this. All that emotion is why you need the ADs - once your head clears up, the plan will be easier to see.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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Ok I will make an appointment and give it a shot. Do most WW act like this? I have read conflicting things about it. She still does stuff that pushes my buttons on an almost daily basis. Kind of seems like I am just rolling over and taking it. This is all coming from a guy who does not do well with "emotions". How long does this limbo normally last because I am not sure how much more of it I can take?
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Do most WW act like this? Yes!!
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Are there any templates on how to tell OM wife? I'm really not sure what to say to her. I seriously doubt that it will even matter considering they are separated and going the route of divorce from what I have been told. Yes, you tell her all about the affair and ask her about the status of her marriage. If they truly are "separated," this information will be extremely beneficial to her. Ask her for all the contact information of the OM so you can expose to his family. If you read on the forum, oyu will see that waywards play a very interesting trick called "separation." They move into the guest room and pronounce themselves "separated." BUT... "separated" means MARRIED, so adultery is very relevant. Be sure that her mother knows the affair is still alive and well.
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Do most WW act like this? Yes!! Well it is absolutely ridiculous and makes no sense to me but I guess it is the norm. I have thought I was done with her multiple times now and after a short period of time (few hours to a day) I think about the outcomes of either way and I cant do that to my kids so I continue to try. Hence the name "feel_crazy".
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I would focus on getting your emotions under control, but more importantly in busting up this affair. That should not be too hard to do since her parents are not going to tolerate it. Can you hire a PI to tail her for a day?
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