Ok, Just got back from a truly wonderful weekend and wanted to share all the beautiful feelings I have. It was one year ago today that my H came home and without much discussion asked me for a divorce. It took me a long time to find my way here but many from this board have helped and I can't say thank you enough for all the support and understanding I found here. <BR>We had a second honeymoon this weekend and more so now than at any other time in my life do I truly feel loved and appreciated. He spent this weekend doing what we should have been doing for years and years, having one on one communications, building on our relationship, and loving and having fun. It was tremendous and I don't think I've EVER felt as much love and caring before. I thank God every day for this place I am at in my marriage, even though I had to go through the amount of pain and suffering that I did go through, I am a much better place right now. Anyways, I wanted so much to share my joy with all of you and maybe give you all a little hope that there are success stories out there!<BR>I am not saying life is perfect, I am saying that I am striving in the right direction now! God Bless!<P>------------------<BR>Chick's <BR>Bren<P>You won't see things until your ready to not be blind!<P>

That is such great news. I am thrilled and envious but you understand why. Again GREAT NEWS Keep shouting it from the roof tops to give the rest of us hope. {{HUGS}}<P>------------------<BR>di<P>

Chick's I want to congratulate you not only for this anniversary but for all that you have accomplished.<P>We do need success stories, it's so difficult to even imagine, when things are going rough, and back and forth, that it is possible to have times like you just did!<P>The good part is that after what we went trough we are able to enjoy this things much more <P>I'm so happy for both of you!<P>I wish you a future full of moments like that.<P>Hugs<P>Kat<P>------------------<BR>Each and everyone of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought, and the gift of understanding.

This is GREAT news!! Praise GOD!!!! There are MANY of us here that NEED to hear this type of story!! THANKS SO MUCH FOR SHARING THE GOOD NEWS AND CONGRATS!!! FRANK<P>------------------<BR>desperate<BR>"If yesterday didn't stop today, Why should TODAY stop tomorrow??" <BR>"Wisdom is why!!"<P>

chick's...what a wonderful post. I have two more months before the year marker. When you look at the big picture of life, I'm sure the pain and suffering will be worth all I have learned.<P>By the way, while you were having a great weekend away, I was at a tourney with my daughters and had my 4 year old's throw up dripping out of my hair at 4:00 AM. You know what a great day it is going to be at that point.<P>Glad yours was better.<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

chick's<BR>It is so wonderful to hear such happiness!!!!<BR>Do you think that I can get that second honeymoon thing in Dec?<BR>It feels great huh?<BR>

Happy Anniversary!! <P>I'm so happy for you, what wonderful news!!

Chicks - Happy Anniversary again! We need more posts like this. Best of everything to you both.<P>Lori

Hi Bren! Boy, what a lift to hear how well things went.<P>Thanks for sharing the good news. My h. talks about having some sort of renewal ceremony 'when we decide we are ready', and I look forward to some sort of honeymoon experience, too. We still have a long way to go yet, but he is trying so hard that I just have no choice but to love him back...<P>have a good day,<BR>LizPearl<P>------------------<BR><BR>"I have found the Pearl of Great Price"<BR>

It was only right that I should share the wonderful weekend with everyone after all the misery I went through. The point is that now things are in a much more positive light and I think everyone should hear that with enough hard work and patience and God's guidance it can be done. <BR>LizPearl-we did a little ceremony on our way back home in the car-not a white dress, wedding cake, band and dancing, but much more meaningful because now those words mean something more to both of us! Hope you can get that too!<BR>Wassy-Of course you'll get that in December, don't we seem to follow each other around! Anyhow, I pray that you do, Birthday Sis, and I believe it can happen to you!<BR>FHL-Believe it or not, I understand completely! This is our 5th on the way and it isn't the first time that in mess of bottles, diapers, and spit up that romance was felt. The idea is an idea, something that can be kept alive if we make just that little bit more of effort.<BR>Everyone else-too many to say. I have tears of joy and am ever so thankful to so many-too many to name. God Bless!<P>------------------<BR>Chick's <BR>Bren<P>You won't see things until your ready to not be blind!<P>

That is so wonderful, I am truely happy for you.

Chick's,<P>I am also so very happy for you and appreciative that you shared this success story with us. <P>My marker for one year will be in February. Your story gives me the hope that maybe we will be near the wonderful spot your in.<P><B>Congradulations!</B><BR><P>------------------<BR>God bless you and all of us.<P>Samantha<BR>

Chick's<BR>That is really happy news. I can imagine the fun you two must have had. <P> Made me think about what day I should aim for as a recovery goal. Let's see......H asked for a D in November of 1997, but never moved out or did anything about it. That was when i started Plan A'ing (but did not know that was what I was doing) His affair had been going on for a year at that time, but I did not know that then either. Discovery of the Affair was Feb. 6th, 1999 (a week before Valentine's day ). <BR>Last "known" conversation H had with OW was July 6th. <P>So, hmmmmmmmmm, what date would be appropriate to remember or see as a landmark? H will prob. never want a "recommittment" ceremony or anything so formal. Doubt he would even call our "get aways" second honeymoons. He just does not seem to have thoughts like that. Although his actions are considerate, loving and kind toward me now, and he frequently says he loves me or Luffs me, or wuvs me. (Sorta cutzie ways he spells the words when he ICQ"S or e-mails me from foreign ports. Wonder if it is easier for him to say if it doesn't sound so serious. hmmmmm.)<P>So, what do you think? Which date should I see as a milestone??<P><BR>Thx<P>Beth

Beth, did you ever have that one day that you wanted the world to swallow you whole? That was a year ago this past weekend, so that is the day WE picked to know that the knowledge was there. I think we both subconciously picked that date and stuck to it. <BR>Maybe you should ask him what date he thought was most significant and choose that?<P>------------------<BR>Chick's <BR>Bren<P>You won't see things until your ready to not be blind!<P>

Good for you!! I love reading stories like yours. It gives us all so much hope. <P>SHA