I would expose tomorrow if possible. Major holidays are great times to expose, when family and friends are visiting

So apparently someone sent him the link and WW is pissed not should bean awesome birthday party for my DD with WW attitude now.

Usually people find out they're posted on Cheaterville within 48 hours.

That is one reason why exposure should be done all at once (nuclear exposure) as explained in Exposure 101 Thread.
You need to finish exposure ASAP before they start developing cover stories.

In the meantime, when your wife complains DO NOT APOLOGIZE FOR EXPOSURE!



Simply tell her: "This adultery is destroying our family and I just want to share the news with others."

EDIT: Also tell her: "OM hasn't seen anything yet. The military has already been informed and adultery is a crime."

I just assumed you would have done that when you posted the story on cheaterville. I am surprised to hear he didn't even know it was on there? When were you planning on telling him?

FC, exposure is supposed to be done all in the same day in order to create a tsunami effect. TRickling it out like this minimizes its effect. I would get this done asap. There is no such thing as a perfect time to expose. You need to get moving and get this done, my friend.

This was the text she recieved from him ... i forwarded it to myself.

Just wanted you to know that H put this story out for the whole world to see. You tell him that he needs to remove this immediately. I've been waiting on him to be a man and contact me about having my stuff but he's obviously not that considering what he's done. I will give him until tomorrow night to take the post down and return my stuff. If that doesn't happen then I will contact the authorities that are already aware of the situation to come and get my stuff. Also let him know that no matter what he decides to do their will be consequences for his actions so be prepared. Also thank him for showing me what a so called "true Christian" is all about. Unbelievable!! BTW ... its funny how he just put me on there like I was the only one involved. I guess I could put all of our names on there in the comments if he wants. That way the whole story is out there.

Any thoughts???

Ohh and WW was pissed this morning. But the birthday party for DD went really well especially with both sides of the family there. She actually came up to me afterwards and gave me a hug and said thank you. This is all very confusing. I hate all of this just want to put my family back together.

YES! Finish your exposures TODAY. Get this done and stop dragging it out.

Have you contacted his commander yet and got this going?

By dragging this out, your exposure has a trickle effect instead of a tsunami effect.

Make sure you provide your wife's name to the BW...perhaps even a link to your wife's fb page so BW has a face to go with the name. I would add more info to the letter. Mel gave you a sample letter. Can you please post what you plan to send so you can get feedback?

LOL he is [censored] a brick. I wouldn't respond in any way...let his head explode and let him worry. Did you say anything to WW when she showed you his text? What stuff of his do you have?

Welcome to MB

What is the "His Stuff" that he referred to multiple times?

Secondly, you should make sure you follow through with the entire chain of command, inquiring as to the status of what they intend to do to thwart this Against Regulation Behavior.

Don't back down now and become a jellyfish. Stand tall and proud warmingly embracing any threatened legal threats he is making. That either will shut him up or passively invoke him into putting his foot in his mouth by becoming legally threatening.

LTL

Please don't tell anyone at IG's office you don't care to know what happens to OM. Let them believe you will not go away until they handle the situation. You don't have to outright say that but you don't want them thinking that you won't have your eye on the situation or that they can put this on the backburner. KWIM?

His text almost sounds like you guys were swingers.
Was this happening?

have you exposed to OM wife, family , friends, etc and to your family and friends?

The only thing I really told her was that I was trying to save the marriage. It was a very brief conversation this morning.

I have no desire to speak with him or respond to any of his threats. I do not have any of his stuff. When WW moved back in and I learned of everything she gave me all of the stuff he bought her and keys to his apartment, storage unit and car. I bagged it all up and dropped it off at my fathers house. He has it all now and would not give it back to me if I wanted. This includes all the purses perfume ect that he purchased for her and there are even receipts where he used his card. I do believe that he has gotten his storage key and apartment keys back because I did give those to WW.

No we were definitely not swingers. WW friend had an affair with one of his friends as well so I am not sure if that is what he is referring too. I have exposed to our family and close friends. I have not yet contacted his wife however OMW has seen the cheaterville posting.

When are you going to finish exposure? Tonight would be an excellent time.

after this morning the rest of the day was actually really good up until the point that we went to dinner just the two of us. We got there and she brought it up again asking what I was hoping to accomplish from it and I just kept saying I am trying to protect our family and save our marriage. The worst part is I'm half convinced that she really isn't talking to him anymore. I tried to change the topic multiple times. It was a rough night that didn't end well. I did not apologize for posting it however I did apologize for it hurting her and that was not my intention. I could really care less about OM I just want him out of the picture for good so we can work on US. As I dropped her off she said thanks for dinner and closed the door on my face. Then right after I left she sent me a text saying I'm ridiculous and thanks for a wonderful time. I was actually looking forward to taking her out tonight seeing as we had such a good day and she told me that she had been looking forward to it to. I am so tired of hearing that she see's a glimmer of hope and then I go and do something to ruin it. Why is all of this so hard? I really do love her and hate seeing her like this. Actually I hate all of this everything about the entire situation.