Would it be alright if I just told his wife? I'm on the fence about all of this FB stuff.

If you can talk to the BW first, I would. She may be able to give you a lot of ammo (which you may want to add to any fb exposure or relay to the IG's office). You may want to write down key things you want to ask her or tell her so that you don't forget them. It can be overwhelming and depending on her reaction she may not want further contact so be prepared.

If her WH is spending a lot of money on your wife make sure she knows about the expensive gifts...if POSOM isn't financially taking care of his child, she might want to take his head off for you.

Hang in there F_C

ETA: Keep all affair evidence...the receipts, texts, etc.

I'm not sure about all of this yes of course I will keep records of everything I have. I just really hate seeing my W like this. I really want to believe her about it being over. We have been spending more time together and she has even warmed up to me a few times but then it's like bam one thing I do or say and she is on her "I saw hope but I don't anymore" deal. None of this stuff adds up. She told me tonight that I am just pushing her further away and it actually seems like that sometimes but only when it has to do with the affair. I want so badly to just be over with this crap and start moving on one way or the other. Limbo is just crap.

I wouldn't do anything because if you refuse to expose I view this as a hopeless situation. Your ONLY hope is to kill this affair and run the OM off. If you won't do that, there is nothing we can do to help you.

This is one reason exposure should happen like boom, boom, boom vs drip, drip, drip. Of course WW is going to be mad but it's better to get everything exposed ASAP to avoid the yoyo effect on your resolve. No one likes to expose but it needs to get done so you get to Step 2 and not have to revisit the issue ten times. Get it done and then you can stop worrying about it. Its almost been a week since you said you were going to contact the BW and you still haven't...stop putting this off. The BW may be your greatest ally so make contact.

You said OMW has seen the cheaterville site...how do you know that? Until you get direct confirmation from BW herself do not believe this especially if that was told to you by WW. Again, contact BW NOW.

Have you printed off OM's fb friend list so in case he hides it, you have a list to still work off of? Have you identified his family members and close friends yet?

I know you are tired, F_C, but you need to complete this exposure ASAP. There is no guarantee of recovery but it definetly will not happen if you don't kill the affair and you sure as heck don't want this POS around your children even if you don't recover. Blow him away!

One more thing...on the cheaterville site, make sure you mention POS has a 1 yr old child and that you have children. People generally get more disgusted when children are involved/abandoned. During those long phone calls you heard between OM and WW, if there is an pathetic FACTUAL details about him you can post, post them. OM is already flipping out that you put him on that website and will be repeatedly checking it so beef up the exposure story. You don't have to give details to the nth degree but readers (who also include his friends and family) should read the highlights of just how scummy he is.

Ok. Well I will contact Omw today. I was more referring to going through his friends list.

I am blocked from his FB. Can not see anything. He sent WW a text yesterday that his wife and all of her family has seen the posting. She has apparently not responded to anything he has sent her. You are right about not wanting my children around OM if we don't recover.

I pulled it back up and there is no way to edit it. I guess I could just add it into the comments.

It's real easy. Sign out and go to his facebook page and make a copy of the names of all the people who have liked or commented on his pictures. That will give you about 60 of his closest contacts. If you can't see this, then click on mod notify, give the mods your email address and I will send you the contacts. There are about 60 contacts that I can see on his facebook page. [I saw his name when you posted the cheaterville link]

Have you contacted his wife? What about his parents?

Do this all TODAY and please stop dragging this out. Dragging this out makes it much less effective. You have chosen to bring a pea shooter to a gun fight and the OM is shooting your *** off. You cannot afford to be weak and complacent when it comes to affair fighting.

How are you doing, F_C?

You still around F_C?

Yes I am still aware. Seems exposure finally killed the affair (however my guard is still up). Still plan A'ing it. She has stayed over every night since last Monday and we have spent nearly every extra minute together. It still feels awkward but im starting to see her come around. She even put her wedding rings back on Saturday after she got off of work.

Did you expose the affair to all family and friends, including the OM family and friends?

In addition to Jedi's questions how are you confirming NC between her and OM?

Did she write a NC letter?