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Yes, the ADs will help you a great deal. They will help even out your emotions and think logically. Right now, understandably, you are very very emotional and hurting.
And your mind is going over and over the horrible thoughts. The ADs will help you with this, too.
The only way to get past this is to either choose to leave and end all communication with your spouse OR read Surviving an Affair and follow every single step.
Either decision will require you to control your anger and disrespect. I guarantee that you will never be happy if the anger continues. Anger guarantees that you will not be able to solve your problems. And it's impossible to be happy and angry simultaneously.
You were, are not, stupid. Your H was. His adultery and horrible behavior is not a reflection on you.
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He says this was mutual. She is a gold digger. Of course she will be thinking she hit a home run. Imagine a man buying u diamonds when there is nothing going on. What does that say. He has never gone beyond free of cost words and false promises for me. With her it was nights after nights planned activity with romance laced with it.
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Gkumarswife,
If you want to have any hope at all, you really MUST stop going on and on about all the horrible stuff he did and focus:
Go to your doctor and get on a prescription for ADs. How soon can you do this? Can you go today?
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I don't know any drs here I am home and can't go today as neither do I have a dr nor do I have ways to commute.
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Do have a way to find a doctor? Can a friend take you to the visit?
Until then, can you go and get some exercise, such as a walk or a run? Exercise can help lift your spirits. Are you able to eat? Do you have any friends or family for support?
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I eat dinners. I don't feel like eating otherwise during the days. My head hurts a lot. I am very lethargic and bathe once in the evenings. I haven't cooked and have no desire to do anything for the kids. Just boxed food. I just feel too tired to do anything My family knows but I don't like to share anything with my parents they r old and it bothers their health. I have no one here with who I share this. I share with a friend or two. But just on and off. No one that knows my daily life
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I feel nauseous and sick all day. Like I was going to throw up. But I don't throw up
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Can you find a doctor who is in your area that will help you? Do you have a friend who can take you?
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Do you live in an area where there are no doctors?
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I don't know anyone here. I don't have any clue where to find one here. I have gotten here just a month back and have no idea where to find a dr
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Is there a neighbor close by you could ask for some help in finding a doctor? Is there a church?
How is your husband acting with you right now?
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My husband is at work I am home. He left after we argued. I asked him to get me escort man for me so I could get even. He said its best if I leave. I agreed and asked my Tim be booked he agreed And he has left. I have asked him to book me since he has maxed all my credit cards and has plenty available on his own credit cards. To book me and the kids. He hasn't read my msg or replied or called. I have no clue what he is doing or where he is
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You are not still considering adultery yourself, are you? I hope not. It will not make you feel better or get even with your husband. It will only complicate things. Maintain your dignity and self-respect.
Where will you go?
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No I won't. I don't even want to get close to any man now .....
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gkumarswife, Do you want for your husband to be at work? Do you feel more comfortable when he is not at home?
If not, then call him and ask him to come home.
Ask him to come home and pick you up and take you to a walk-in medical clinic. That way you can get some anti-depressants.
If he or you do not know where to find one, you can use google by searching walk in clinic and your zip code to find one.
DDays - six months of them THANK YOU God and Marriage Builders. We never knew that it could be this good! 
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Googled. Didn't find any in the state of alaska
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try this: Urgent Care Clinics Alaska You have to go to the bottom and then click on the city that you are closest to.
DDays - six months of them THANK YOU God and Marriage Builders. We never knew that it could be this good!
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Gkumarswife:
Can you take a few moments to consider your options?
If you leave, where will you go and how will you have money to support yourself?
Is there a place you have in mind where you could live with your children?
Do you have a job/can you get a job?
If you want to stay married or give your H a chance to recover your marriage with you, can you stop your anger and disrespect?
Can you use the help that Blindsighted gave you to find a doctor?
I have to leave now, but try and think about a plan, okay?
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Urgent care is approx six miles from where I live. I can't get there until tomorrow. I will go back to India to my parents. My kids and me can live there and yes I can find a job. My brother will support me financially until I find a job.
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