Well, I have been on here for a very short period of time. I wrote a post asking a question about love busters and immaturity in my husband. The advice I received was great, but it seemed my husband was not willing to really hear me out as I calmly explained to him my concern and what I needed.

It has been revealed to me that he had been having an affair with another women beginning in April. I caught him at the beginning of May. There were text messages where they were sharing pictures of their private parts. Now, he never met this woman in person. He met her at through a satellite office in another State. I guess he felt it was safer to deal with someone that I would never find out about. But I did. I had a feeling something was going on and I asked him he denied it. I finally checked his phone and there it was. All the evidence.

I went to the MB website to find out what to do. I revealed my findings to some of his his close family members and to our spiritual advisers. We are in counseling. When I revealed the information to my father-in-law he said it was my fault too that he had the affair. He began to yell at me, going off on me about all the things I said to my husband in the past, how I expect him to be rich (I don't), he yelled at me for some things that my husband was telling him I DID. After that conversation I felt brokenhearted because I know that this was not my fault. He even told me that I should have sex with him even though I was sick.

I have been sick for two years after having my son. I became bed ridden for months last year. I am a stay at home mom with two small children, one of which is very heavy to pick up. So, needless to say I pulled my upper chest wall and most of my upper torso. I could not move. This happened on top of being sick. I could barely take care of the needs of my house and have sex. Our sex life was sporadic once I started to feel better. My husband would say I need sex, I need sex. I would apologize and cry because I would be on the couch unable to move. I constantly reached out to my husband for help doing some chores. He would never help. Once I got better I got pregnant. Then I was sick for 3 months and scared because I did not want to be sick again. Sex was the furthest thing from my mind. So now I am dealing with infidelity issues. I have even been accused of having an affair.

There was cheating in my first marriage. I never expected my 2nd husband to cheat on me. He is such a stand-up guy. A nice guy. With the counseling, I am trying to heal. The incident is still fresh. It's only been a month since finding out. My husband told our counselor that he just wants me to feel better so he can get back to being happy. Well, I am not happy. I am surviving now. How do you heal from an affair?

Sorry for your pain. Is the OW married? Who did you expose to on OW's side?

Have you read all of these?
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The other woman is not married. She had a boyfriend. My husband told me they began by discussing a work related issue. After the conversation was over she began to repeatedly send him messages that were not worked related. One day she asked if he was ok and that was when he decided to talk about our marital problems. Then it snowballed into sending sexual messages.

I caught him doing the same thing when we were not even married for a year. He decided that he needed to talk to another woman about a problem we were having. I had no choice but to see it because the page was still left open on my laptop. When I questioned him about it he said that he was just talking to another married woman to get her perspective on what was happening to me. I warned him that it was not a good idea to such things because if this is a habit then it will turn into an affair. And, it did 2 years later with someone else.

I read the link before. Been up watching videos and reading.

Who on OW's side have you exposed to? Her parents, siblings?

I don't know the other woman. She lives in another State. I am not sure if he really has stopped talking to her.

Do you have spyware on his devices?

Have you looked her up on Facebook?

There seems to be no name attached to this person he was seeing only a phone number. I do have records of her phone number. I have to try and sneak his phone to put a device on it. He keeps his phone with him at all times. So I never have an opportunity to look at it. That is one of the reasons why I am not sure if he is still talking to this person or not. I don't know if he is talking to anyone else either.

If he has his phone on him all of the time and you actually have to sneak to look at it, he's hiding something you don't want to see.

My WH slept with it under his pillow.

Yeah. That is what I know. I never take my phone with me everywhere. It's not important to have it in the bathroom with me at all times or sleep with it. I don't have anything to hide. I am thinking about just asking him for his phone.