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Re: He needs me to be with him more than I need to be
futurehelp #2808938 06/26/14 12:42 PM
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Originally Posted by futurehelp
he knows this but he says he can't help that he has feelings.

He will need to learn to help that if he wants to change this. He can't afford any angry outbursts.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Re: He needs me to be with him more than I need to be
MelodyLane #2808960 06/26/14 04:39 PM
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Feelings aren't wrong, it's how we react to them that is the issue. It's okay if I am upset if my wife did something that upsets me. And I would respond by telling her in a calm manner that "it upsets me when..." . However, it would be wrong for me to raise my voice, say insulting things, and curse at her.

Saying he can't help it is a cop out. 3 year old have tantrums, adults do not.

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