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Sometimes the wife becomes QUARRELSOME AND NAGGING for some reason.
Married 20 years together for 25 years. Husband has greatly disappoint me, by being a people pleaser and putting others first. I feel unloved, unimportant and not honoured as a wife.
I am lonely and unhappy and as a Christian now have a great connection with a Muslim Man at work who makes me happy and smile again. I am lost and don't know what to do. I really love this guy. The guy want a relationship, but I told him I cannot cheat its not in me. He is upset about that. Sometimes I don't think it is fear to have a relationship with one person. To die knowing one man, and there are other men who can make you happier than you are.
My husband is my first and only love from teenagers. I know no other man. We have 2 children. Help!!!!!
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Sometimes the wife becomes QUARRELSOME AND NAGGING for some reason.
Married 20 years together for 25 years. Husband has greatly disappoint me, by being a people pleaser and putting others first. I feel unloved, unimportant and not honoured as a wife.
I am lonely and unhappy and as a Christian now have a great connection with a Muslim Man at work who makes me happy and smile again. I am lost and don't know what to do. I really love this guy. The guy want a relationship, but I told him I cannot cheat its not in me. He is upset about that. Sometimes I don't think it is fear to have a relationship with one person. To die knowing one man, and there are other men who can make you happier than you are.
My husband is my first and only love from teenagers. I know no other man. We have 2 children. Help!!!!! Why do you keep posting this same message on different threads?
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If you want to end your affair and have a loving, romantic marriage there is a PLAN for doing so.
The first thing you need to do is post in the Surviving an Affair forum.
Posting your same message repeatedly on different forums and not responding to the posts of those who reply to you is just a waste of time.
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Sometimes the wife becomes QUARRELSOME AND NAGGING for some reason. You didn't actually read the article, did you? Do you mostly talk without listening? How can we help you, then? 
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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Sometimes the wife becomes QUARRELSOME AND NAGGING for some reason.
Married 20 years together for 25 years. Husband has greatly disappoint me, by being a people pleaser and putting others first. I feel unloved, unimportant and not honoured as a wife.
I am lonely and unhappy and as a Christian now have a great connection with a Muslim Man at work who makes me happy and smile again. I am lost and don't know what to do. I really love this guy. The guy want a relationship, but I told him I cannot cheat its not in me. He is upset about that. Sometimes I don't think it is fear to have a relationship with one person. To die knowing one man, and there are other men who can make you happier than you are.
My husband is my first and only love from teenagers. I know no other man. We have 2 children. Help!!!!! So you nag your husband as well as cheat on him? What possible 'reason' excuses mental abuse of the highest order? The 'reason' is not enough to divorce him (or even mention here!) because you need his co-parenting, company and financial aid while you cheat on him with a man you know will dump you soon. Your poor husband has my deepest sympathy.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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I'm new to this site. **EDIT ** I have never cheated on my husband. I have only ever been with one man in my life that is my hubby. Not like some people who has been around the world and back.
We have our issues like anyone else. Temptation is great but not enough to cheat.
**EDIT**
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Giving your heart to someone else....
Is. devastating. for. him.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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I don't thnk you are finding it great. I don't think you are happy and would like a way for the temptation to go away. You know how - speak up to your H.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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You are cheating on your H, you are engaged in an emotional affair. You have poor boundaries with the opposite sex and this has led to you 'falling in love' with the OM.
You will need to setup boundaries and cutoff all contact with OM. It will be hard and you will go through a withdrawal period but it is necessary or you will never get over him. You should quit your job immediately because it is impossible to remain in contact with this man because your 'emotional connection' will remain intact until you completely cutoff all contact with him.
TELL YOUR HUSBAND, he deserves to know why his marriaga has suddenly changed.
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