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Originally Posted by WallFlower
Next issue: as you know this road to recovery is fragile. It was not accepted in the best of circumstances, but EP's are being put in place. 3-night get away already planned, DD will travel with him on upcoming bus. trip, etc.
I have learned that WH told friend that he is ONLY doing this because of the money situation. He realized that after child and spousal support that he would be broke and he couldn't "live like that" - on the amt of money that was left over. Do I tell DD? If he is following the EP's, and they are making concerted effort to meet UA, should that be enough to give "romantic love" a chance to develop?
Pro's and con's of telling her:

So what is the plan for his job situation? Is he going to leave his traveling job?


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So what is the plan for his job situation? Is he going to leave his traveling job?
He has a business trip next week and she is going with him.

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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
So what is the plan for his job situation? Is he going to leave his traveling job?
He has a business trip next week and she is going with him.

What is the plan thereafter?



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Originally Posted by MelodyLane
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So what is the plan for his job situation? Is he going to leave his traveling job?
He has a business trip next week and she is going with him.

What is the plan thereafter?
I don't know. I think the fact that she is going with him right away speaks to her understanding the importance of no overnight separation. So I'm not sure of the long term plan.

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I sure hope so. They won't have any chance unless he stops traveling. frown


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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



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Originally Posted by BrainHurts
Thx BrainHurts.

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Originally Posted by BrainHurts
Thx BrainHurts.
You're welcome.


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