I hear you. I'm scared to death of Divorce, but the thought of being a plan B because her and her boyfriend don't work out makes me ill. I know it's rough on a man. Im fortunate that my wife has a good paying job, great benefits and a pension. Won't cost me a whole lot if we do D. What it will cost me is time away from my kids. IF (and that's a big IF)I choose to reconcile, that will be my reasoning for doing so.

NIMPTR,

Since the OM has a business you need to expose to his customers, clients or whoever pays him. Gather all the intel. you can on the OM. His family, church and relatives too.

Have you exposed to the OMW? Make sure she knows the full extent and that it is a physical affair. Speak to OMW before OM gets a chance to.

God Bless
Gamma

Sleeping is difficult for some time. You can work the plans before making an ultimate decision.

Are you planning on exposing?

http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2791622#Post2791622

Expose to everyone you can as swiftly as you can.

It is Imperative. You have several days while she is gone.

Hopefully, by now you have read up on all the exposure tips and the link in MelodyLane's Exposure 101 link.

Then wait for her big blow-up.

You would really be aided by reading through this thread by WifeDivorcing that I linked at the top of this post when you have time.

See how he stood up.

LTL

I was put on Wellbutrin about 6 weeks ago, and it has helped me focus, but one of the side effects, is insomnia. I had a hard time sleeping for a few weeks, so maybe get a perscription for a sleep aid also.

So far, both he mom and dad and step parents know. Of course her mother did the same thing so not much help there. Next is trying pin down the OMW and introduce myself with my hard evidence. Also, just saw a therapist and my lawyer (who's smokin hot). Anyway the W really wants to mediate and as long as the terms are fair, I'm good with that. She said she won't touch my pension so long as I leave her's alone. This a big win form me. She just moved all the kids onto her medical so I'm going to save a bunch there too. I actually want to sell the house and start my life over elsewhere. She can go move in with Dbag for all I care...so long as my kids aren't there. We verbally agreed on split custody. I'd like to have more, but she's a good mother (with no morals) to the kids and her schedule is waaay more flexible than mine. I'm actually going to request she sells the engagement ring I got her 14yrs ago (the one she hasn't worn in 2 months). It's valued at about $10k. We could pay off a bunch of debt with that. I could probably snake it and she'd never know it was missing!! But that would be deception....just like she did me!!!

Have you found OMBW? Who on OM's side did you expose to?

I just found her the OMBW on Linkden. I'll be emailing her to get into contact with me asap. I still don't know where the rest of his family is.

NIM, did you look on facebook? Can you find his wife on facebook?