Marie... See my quote in my sig. God WANTS your fruitful deeds exposed to the light.

Btw, this place IS christian based.

MNG

I am one of those who is convinced that Dr. Harley has a call from the Lord to save marriages. I was led here by the Spirit at my time of crisis, and Marriage Builders was the framework by which God restored our marriage. So, if you are sincere in your desire to respond to the will of God, then don't ignore what you can learn here.

It is very telling that you refuse to answer questions about OM, and you turn and run when we press you to answer.

Very, very telling.

To conclude that solid MB advice is destructive is not listening to God. It is foggy and wayward. God wants your marriage restored, and we would not be serving as God's messengers if we left you in your sin.

Then do not fight against his scripture:
This is the judgment, that the Light has come into the world, and men loved the darkness rather than the Light, for their deeds were evil. For everyone who does evil hates the Light, and does not come to the Light for fear that his deeds will be exposed. But he who practices the truth comes to the Light, so that his deeds may be manifested as having been wrought in God. John 3:19-21

Your AFFAIR was destructive. Not this forum. But you can keep playing the victim, Drew is mean and we are not real people who care, we are just a destructive group operating under mob mentality.

Good luck with your plan.

Marie,

I am sorry you feel this place is so horrible. I guess you thought that we were going to feel sorry for you.

Like I said before it might not be nice that he did that but you truly have no reason to be so upset, I mean you were a cheater and you have no idea what that pain does to a betrayed spouse.

But now BOTH of you should try to put the affair behind you and move forward on fixing your marriage and part of that is the embarrassment you feel over the affair. I would actually think worse of you if you were not embarrassed by what happened.

This website did wonders for me but it may not be the place for the wayward spouse if they cannot take the heat because you will get called out.

I know that things will not change if you do NOTHING to change things.......

Marie has left the building...

And will now use the "bullying" she received her to discredit Marriage Builders and demand that her husband give up this resource.

Can see right through her...

The other choice would have been to humble herself and she is not willing to do that. She still feels entitled to her affair because of whatever perceived injuries her husband inflicted.

She doesn't get it.

And she's still in contact with OM.

I am leaving the building but I would never discredit the good work Dr. Harley does. If my husband wants to get on here that is fine with me. My only problem with the whole process is the cheaterville site. I just fail to see its usefulness. Exposure is necessary but exposure to those who care about those involved seems much more productive than a cheap disgusting website. I know you all think I am just feeling sorry for myself but that website sent an email to my seventeen year old. After seeing the unbelievable change in my husband she had to read disgusting things about her mother written by her dad. How do you think they made her feel? I fully admit he would have never had to do it if I had been the wife and mother they deserve but part of being a parent is protecting your children. Believe it or not my children love me too. They were devastated to see that stuff in print. Obviously I should have never started this whole post.

You all can rest easy I am not in contact with the other man. I am just going to take a little different approach. Work on my relationship with the amazing one who made me, which in turn will heal the relationship with the one I married. This may not work for everyone but I feel confident in my decision.

Your feelings have lied to you before.
I wouldn't trust them if I were you.

You are so right but I know god is faithful and if I had been living a life for god originally I would have never gotten involved in sin. So I can't believe I am wrong about it.

Your 17 year old daughter deserves to know the truth about what has happened to her family. You are not protecting her by keeping her in the dark, you are protecting yourself.

She is not devastated by the fact that she was told. She is devastated because of what you did. YOU caused the pain, not your husband, not cheaterville, and certainly not marriage builders. Own it.

The Bible tells us to "Guard your hearts diligently for out of it comes the issues of life"

Feelings and beliefs are not going to keep you from doing it again. Many, MANY waywards feel sorrow and regret for what they have done, then go on to have another affair.

You must have extraordinary precautions in place to keep it from happening again. It's going to take more than feelings, or even faith in God.

Repentance requires action.

If you are serious about ending your affair the first step is to write this letter and give it to your husband to mail to your affair partner:

Yikes.

If your BH is reading, I would say to him, be very careful. These are the words of a person who would prefer to search for an option that makes them feel better about themselves vs put work into the marriage.

We have seen this type of deviation before and it never bodes well for the M.

I have done all this. I am really going to sign off now and not look at this again. I keep getting sucked in. I really only owe anything to those I care for.

If you have done all this, then why are you running?