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Jedi,
I was at the sherifs office with her when she tried to get the restraining order.
She did try. Are you stating that your wife was physically abused by the affair partner and you accompanied her to the Sheriff and he refused to do anything unless she is beaten again?
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That is correct, also it happened months before that.
(It happened in dec. 2013 and we went to the sheriffs dept in May of 2014.
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Any suggestions on how to get her to take a Polly?
Do I start plan B?
Do I say "no Polly no marriage"? We keep repeating the same questions and answers over and over. If you re-read your thread, you will see the answers to your questions.
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Creating happiness in the present will alleviate your anguish. Talking about the tragedies of the past will cause more anguish and sadness. Very very true. Thank you
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Creating happiness in the present will alleviate your anguish. Talking about the tragedies of the past will cause more anguish and sadness. Very very true. Thank you BUT.... your problems have not been resolved. You have to first resolve the problems before they can become the "past."
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Any suggestions on how to get her to take a Polly?
Do I start plan B?
Do I say "no Polly no marriage"? We keep repeating the same questions and answers over and over. If you re-read your thread, you will see the answers to your questions. Jedi, I a. Sorry, I do not see the answer to my Polly question. Should I tell my W. No Polly no marriage?
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Any suggestions on how to get her to take a Polly?
Do I start plan B?
Do I say "no Polly no marriage"? We keep repeating the same questions and answers over and over. If you re-read your thread, you will see the answers to your questions. Jedi, I a. Sorry, I do not see the answer to my Polly question. Should I tell my W. No Polly no marriage?You should be careful that you aren't demanding or threatening. You may want to phrase it to your wife like "I would feel safer remaining in this marriage if you agreed to take a polygraph and answer these questions."--then hand her a list of 20 or so questions you have.
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Here are some good questions that other posters have used. Polygraph Testing
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Jedi,
I have already tried the nice "i would feel safer in this marriage if you would take the Polly" route. She gives me the same excuses as before.
........ She says she will be truthfull. But she is afraid she will still fail because a polygraph is not perfect.
As I illustrated before, she is wierd.
I already illustrated, she wouldn't use the crib because 2 babies out of millions died with that crib design.
She wouldn't keep it's a boy balloons up because someone might see it and kidnap our baby.
(Not trying to change the subject, just trying to illustrate that I am not dealing with a typical American wife)
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Creating happiness in the present will alleviate your anguish. Talking about the tragedies of the past will cause more anguish and sadness. Very very true. Thank you BUT.... your problems have not been resolved. You have to first resolve the problems before they can become the "past." It is true that my problems have of been resolved IF my wife let OM in the house. I did not see him in the house, I only saw his car outside. The house was dark when I came in. (I cam in on a complete surprise) W states that she did not let him in. If that is true then I would be proud of her. What we talked about is in motion. Don't want to say too much here incase W reads it. I am working on finding a day job.
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These OM can play this cat and mouse game with you because you protect them from wide exposure.
He is probably going there every night when you are at work.
Have you placed hidden recorders in the house when you are gone?
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I have just started placing the vars.
I have also enlisted friends to drive buy ant night and have a looksie.
The great thing about my job is that they give us a lot of time off. (18 sick days in a year)
Also they let us take a partial shift off if they have too much coverage.
(That saves them payroll)
My point is, I have come home unexpectedly multiple times in the last 3 months, and Monday was the only time I saw OMs car.
My W acts like she hates him, and again she said she told him to leave.
(I know she could be gas lighting, so that is what the vars are for.)
Also, I have been watching cell phone records and email and facebook, everything there seems innocent.
I also have web watchers.
I looked high and low for a burner phone, and found nothing.
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I just changed my username to make it harder to google search me.
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Well,
I just listened to a days worth of var.
Nothing but innocent interactions between my W and my son.
That is good, but I am still in a bad mood.
Ingest the mind movies and sounds in my head.
I mean goodness my W had sex with other men.
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Well,
I just listened to a days worth of var.
Nothing but innocent interactions between my W and my son.
That is good, but I am still in a bad mood.
Ingest the mind movies and sounds in my head.
I mean goodness my W had sex with other men. What other spyware do you have? Did you ever figure out how to jailbreak her phone?
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Brainhurts,
I have web watchers. She uses an iPod not an iPhone.
I have not jail broken it, me cause she ould be able to tell if it were jail broken.
Web watchers and vars are the only spyware I have.
So far there is no sign of her contacting OM.
Maybe she is being truthfull.
I will say if she says anything about OM, she acts like she hates him.
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Brainhurts,
I have web watchers. She uses an iPod not an iPhone.
I have not jail broken it, me cause she ould be able to tell if it were jail broken.
Web watchers and vars are the only spyware I have.
So far there is no sign of her contacting OM.
Maybe she is being truthfull.
I will say if she says anything about OM, she acts like she hates him. Has any of your friends been able to drive by yet?
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I do not believe so, but I have only been gone for one night. (I was off the rest of the nights)
If OM came in, the var would catch it.
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I do not believe so, but I have only been gone for one night. (I was off the rest of the nights)
If OM came in, the var would catch it. Okay good. Are you avoiding love Busters and making deposits?
FWW/BW (me)
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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I do not believe so, but I have only been gone for one night. (I was off the rest of the nights)
If OM came in, the var would catch it. Okay good. Are you avoiding love Busters and making deposits? I sure am! It's hard though. (With my mind movies and all) I guess there is no way she can understand how I feel. I guess I have to suck it up.
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