Does webwatcher get detected by any spyware like Malware Bytes, Spybot, or Ad Aware?

I do not believe it is detected by spyware. I have not had any problems with it.

Do you have her cell #? And have you put her email address into the Facebook search bar?

Somehow you are going to have to get the goods if you want to move this forward.

Please place a var in his car. Use velcrow to secure it under the seat.
You can buy the velcrow at walmart. (Save money live better)
I use an Olympus brand var that I got at best buy. (It was $60, be sure to turn it on voice activated mode)
(I actually bought one of mine at radio shack and the guy helped me set it up)

I don't have her cell #. There is no pattern of calls on the phone bill. I used to have it, though, and I'm not one to get rid of stuff. I'll look for it this weekend. I put both her "new" email address and her old one into Facebook and got nothing.

My husband also still has lots of his old driving school records so I'll look through those tomorrow while he's out.

Good, because once you find out the information on this OW you'll be able to put your exposure plan together.

Just an update...keylogger installed on computer--nothing. Installed on phone...nothing. VAR in truck...nothing but work stuff. I cannot find a secret phone, and there is no other computer. Every time I ask him for details, I get "I don't know." He has yet to do a NC letter. I told him that I have done these twice but that his (last year) was dictated to him by me. He still says he does not know her address or phone #. I am kind of at a loss here. This Sunday is our 29th anniversary, and it was his idea to go away for the weekend, which we are doing. I'm not interested in romance but I sure would like more information. I don't know where to go at this point except the checklist for ending an affair. Should I bring this up or not "ruin" the weekend?? (It's already ruined as far as I can see.) What do I do now since I still have no information? ETA: I went through all his driving school stuff. Out of the hundreds of names/cards, hers is missing. Ugh.

He sent her 600 text messages that you know of, yet doesnt know her phone number?
He is "gaslighting" you.

This is what I suggest: You request that he take a polygraph examination to make you feel safe.

It's up to you savage but there is no way I would turn a blind eye to this ongoing deception and go way for a "pretend" weekend celebration. What would be the point of a THIRD NC letter? All that says to him is you will go through the motions AGAIN, will stay and he can go back to broken NC until the next time you catch him...rinse and repeat.

You set your boundaries and enforce them. If he wants to keep playing dumb...you either make plans to separate and expose to whatever friends/family you have or suck it up. If you have no boundaries or don't enforce them, then it's really hopeless. Sorry.

Have you been married 31 years or 29 years? You said both.

Can you put a GPS on his truck? Is that what he drives for work?
Then you can find out if this "overtime" or "special trips" are for real...

The Var should help you a great deal. Again, just be sure it is set to voice activated mode. You can velcrow it underneath the seat.
Thank God my var has turned up nothing for the past few weeks!
That gives me a little peace of mind.
I am praying for you. I am sorry you are going through this.
I know this has been the most painfull experience of my life.
(My W still doesn't fully understand that.)