Texas Man,<P> See it is not always the norm. I thought mostly men cheated for sex and women for emotion. But I gave my h everything and more in the bedroom. He admits sex with her was not as good, but she cared about his feelings. He says. So he cheated!<BR>All I can tell you is talk, talk, talk and talk! Find out what she likes, don't say "what does he do that I don't do"<BR>But ask her what she likes? What's her favorite position? Or have a night that you call your "first night" What you do is take turns doing things to each other, telling each other what you like or don't like. Or if she's comfortable let her show you what she likes. Make mental notes that night. So later on you can surprise by doing something unexpected that you noticed she really liked. Talk about fantasies with each other, where is someplace you could "do it" or do something, w/o going to jail. But make it fun. I can't think of very few times that my h initiated really passionate sex. It's always me and sometimes I would really just like for him to take charge and tell me what it is that's good or not! Anyway ..<BR>I don't know where you wife is? Was she the initiater in the past? Was it you? Was it always traditional positions? Has she been uncomfortable with her appearance around you for some reason? Is it easier for her to open up to him because she doesn't feel as self conscious? These are tough questions I know, but without the answers you won't know how to please her. But don't lose the romantic love trying to turn on the sexual heat. Everyone needs that even if they say they don't. Love her deeply and learn to please her and her you as well and you guys could be on fire. <BR>M<P>------------------<BR>Mater<P>
