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Any chance of getting a brief synopsis now?
I won't be on my home computer until after 4 pm EST.
Thank you.
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"I need trust too, and that has been destroyed by your actions. Taking that job has been a knife in my back. It is as hurtful to me as your affair."
SEND THAT NOW. Do not argue with me!!
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I just did.
What's pissing her off the most is when she said Dr. Harley called her "weak" and that she'd "rekindle something with OM" if she took the job.
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It sounds to me she feels like she has "served her time for the crime" and now it's time for life to go on as it was before.
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FTF,
Im sorry, I didn't know how to take your comment, serious or sarcastic?
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FTF,
Im sorry, I didn't know how to take your comment, serious or sarcastic? I'm serious. I think that is her perspective. That MB has been her punishment for her crime of infidelity and she feels like she has served out her sentence.
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Oh, got it.
I'm not disagreeing that you could be right that that is her prerogative.
Is it okay with you that her "get out of jail" card places her 7 miles from the OMs house, though? And that she violated an established EP in making that decision independently?
I am curious about your thoughts.
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Very nice...
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Yeah, like marriage stops infidelity.
Geez...
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Oh, got it.
I'm not disagreeing that you could be right that that is her prerogative.
Is it okay with you that her "get out of jail" card places her 7 miles from the OMs house, though? And that she violated an established EP in making that decision independently?
I am curious about your thoughts. No, not at all. I think our situations have some similarities which is why I have been following it. BTW, I'm not sure if that is a misspell on your part, but I said that's her perspective not prerogative.
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Yes, my mistake. I'm sorry.
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I need to get home later to hear Dr. H's response...
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Look, what she is doing with this job thing is wrong. It just is. You could divorce her if you want. Let's just put that to the side for the moment.
This might help me too.
Just looking at it from her perspective as a thought exercise.
What exactly is it that HFM has gotten out of MB for the last four years from her perspective? She gets to stay? What else? If you were her, what would you say you have gotten out of it?
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I have to sign off for a little while, but I'll end with this:
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FTF, Real quick...
I feel HFM would say at the very least it kept her family and marriage in tact. That she has grown (yes, she has actually) in personal areas, 'her side of the street' stuff. Taught her boundaries, confidence, especially dealing with family and coworkers. Made her a better parent.
Generally -- at least when it agrees with her I guess -- liked that we POJAd things, that we did have EPs...healthier communication, less arguments, it taught me to eliminate AOs, meet her needs better...we actually enjoy our UA time most of the time.
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helpfordad, can you let your wife know that I have posted to her on her thread and would like to talk with her here? She may not be willing, but I would like to talk with her, and I'm sure my wife Prisca would be willing to talk with her as well. Maybe she would be willing to listen to us.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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