I told my husband I want a divorce. I've posted previously but got no response and I really need help. We both were torn. So I told him that things need to seriously change and we need to work on us. He's unwilling. So he told me to go ahead and go and be happy.

So he's gone for another week and a half to work. I'm planning on getting a storage for things I know I'm hanging onto but not using. My cousin gave me a house key so I can go there anytime. So I was planning on staying here at the house while he's gone and going to my cousins while he's home. I broke the news to my son so he wouldn't be confused. He got really upset said he wants us to stay together. I tried explaining to him lightly. But I can't stay for him. I'm hurt too bad and cannot continue to be in this marriage. I've read all I could. And from what I understand is if you move out it's considered abandonment. I'm going to go to the court next week to see what my options are. But does it seem ok to not be here while he's home? Or should I stay and just stay in separate room? I'm so confused and lost.

Is your husband still drinking and is he dating other women?

Yes he still drinks. I'm unsure if he sees anyone else. He's away at work 2 weeks at a time. We rarely talk when he's gone. If we do it's late at night and just to say goodnight. But since I told him i wanted a divorce he isn't talking to me. When he's home he spends his time preoccupied, asleep or gone.

What spyware do you have on his devices? Can you afford a PI?

Your husband has horrible boundaries. Friending and messaging OW, old exes and others. He has an out of town job so he can have a SSL(secret second life).

I don't have any spyware. And I can't afford a PI.

I do think he lives a separate life, but not with someone. I believe if anything he acts like a single guy.

I already made it clear I want a divorce. I'm tired of being alone. I'm tired of him just taking off whenever he wants without any regard of his family.

I just don't know if it's right or ok for me to reside in our home while he's gone and somewhere else while he's home. At least until I get the divorce settled and am capable of moving. Like I said I read if you leave it's considered abandonment. I haven't worked in years. The only job experience I have is hair cutting. And it's hard to find a job with that. I've depended on him too many years.

You need to prepare for Plan B. How to Plan B Correctly