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Re: Long Term Communication
black_raven #2821956 10/02/14 02:26 PM
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I've also told them if xWH takes them near her (or anywhere they don't want to be), that they can call me and someone will come get them.


Be careful telling your children that someone will come get them. They may call you and ask their dad, but you legally can not take them without his permission if it is his custodial time with them...and you have no restriction in your orders about being around OW.

That's an interesting thing I hadn't considered. I told my kids that if their dad had been drinking and asked them to get into a car, they didn't have to, they could call me or another friend. And they had cell phones. My kids knew not to abuse this, like call the other parent when they got mad.

Me 40, OD 18 and YD 13
Married 15 years, Divorced 10/2010
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Megz #2822223 10/05/14 09:44 PM
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Originally Posted by Megz
Another problem is xWH has stopped communicating with my mediator. He talks to the kids about once a week to arrange weekends (which is fine), and has talked to his dad a couple times, so my guess is that he doesn't think he needs to communicate through the mediator. I have sent some messages through IM about paperwork that needs to be finished in order to finish exchanging property. The paperwork has been at my atty's office for a month, very simple, already agreed upon stuff, just changing titles and that kind of thing. He will not get in there and sign it!! It's getting very frustrating.

This is not fine. My kids are older teens (10, 12, 16,17) and even at this age I don't communicate to my x through them. Your kids are way too young to be responsible for something like that. And regardless of their age, sending communications through them, puts them in the middle. That's the LAST thing they need.

For what it's worth, my ex sometimes tries to communicate through the kids. The last time he did this it was a disaster, put ds16 right in the middle of a disagreement between my ex and I. Waywards will always try to not follow the rules. Enforce them now while your children are little and when they get older they won't have to deal with his b.s.

I wouldn't say anything to the kids about how they should behave when they are with their dad. Let xwh handle their behavior.

Me: 39
Married my amazing husband (52) on 2/29/2016
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