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Because of his position of 'leadership' this relationship with a student will eventually have him lose his job.
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My husband is s good man and I don't think he is being unfaithful. Being a good man is irrelevant. Anybody can have an affair. That's why extraordinary precautions (no opposite sex friendships, etc) are NECESSARY. Because without them, people WILL and do have affairs, every single day! I honestly wouldn't mind it unless it is going to hurt him, but then again their friendship is less that 2 weeks old. Please help. I noticed that you pointed that out a couple of times - that their relationship is only 2 weeks old. I hope you realize that is PLENTY of time for this OW to have made MASSIVE lovebank deposits.
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He said that when they didn't text he missed it, he re-reads their texts all the time, he wanted to move their messages to a flash drive because he wanted to keep them, he says that one of the conversations they had had was the joy of his day, and she made a comment about something silly and he said "God, I have never been this soft" he was speaking about being soft emotionally not sexually. Then I noticed that most of their texts are initiated by him and if she doesn't get back to him within a certain amount of time he will text her again. This is exactly how a person in an affair behaves. There is nothing special or different - this is textbook. The OW has made enough lovebank deposits to breach the romantic threshold and now your H is addicted to her. He cannot ever be around her again without endangering your M.
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Because of his position of 'leadership' this relationship with a student will eventually have him lose his job. This^ If you get a chance read up about coach Bobby Petrino...a coach, an ex volley ball player (with a boyfriend) ...he almost destroyed his marriage and his career...
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I am so sorry that you are going through such an awful experience. Your H is 100%, proof positive, cheating on you emotionally. He is protecting the OW's feelings rather than your own and that is not acceptable. Install the keylogger on his computer, put a GPS tracker on his cell phone (my husband and I use CM Security's Locate Family) and gather your evidence. Expose the affair, which will take away a lot of the satisfaction he is feeling from keeping you in the dark.
Tell your WH he must end his friendship with this woman and have no contact with her ever again, even of it means leaving his job and moving to another state. Do not accept excuses.
He says his ex-wife was insanely jealous? Based on how he is treating you, it is safe to say that he gave her just cause to feel threatened.
Last edited by CelticMuse; 10/19/14 07:24 PM. Reason: misspelling
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