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That's wonderful news, Marie! It will make such a difference to your marriage!
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I am excited and nervous. I have never been unemployed. I am just going to wait to for something that works well for our marriage. Our UA time has been incredible. Its weird today my husband had to get my daughter from college and I have not heard from him and it was kind of lonely. I have really become a little needy:)
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Which is the total opposite of our previous marriage.
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Which is the total opposite of our previous marriage. You are becoming ATTACHED to him! 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Now you have set the stage to create a really awesome marriage if you stick with us. We can help you with next steps. I always say that wild horses will run off someone who is serious about saving her marriage, and you have certainly proved that true. You threatened to leave several times but kept coming back. I guess you were serious! 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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HA! I really, truly am. I am so happy I did not quit even though I wanted to. The view is amazing when the fog lifts:)
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HA! I really, truly am. I am so happy I did not quit even though I wanted to. The view is amazing when the fog lifts:) You hung in there like a champ! And you sure were a pain in the a*s!! 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Ha! Yes I was! I cant help it. I have this awful need to get my point across! But I also am very good at discerning the truth when I see it!
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Actually that is not true. I can be fooled...obviously but I definitely saw some truth here that made me keep coming back:)
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Actually that is not true. I can be fooled...obviously but I definitely saw some truth here that made me keep coming back:) We all really want to help others to have fantastic marriages following MB. We always hope people will listen and learn, but some think they know how. Glad you stayed around and learned.
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Congrats' Marie. You were too stubborn to take advice here right away, but too stubborn too leave. A wise person listens to wise people. Gad you have made it.
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Actually that is not true. I can be fooled...obviously but I definitely saw some truth here that made me keep coming back:) Marie, Dr. Harley's philosophy's changed my life for the better. And I don't refer to a minor change. It was and continues to be a major change. I literally had to change the way I behaved and viewed marriage.
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I am excited and nervous. I have never been unemployed. I am just going to wait to for something that works well for our marriage. Our UA time has been incredible. Its weird today my husband had to get my daughter from college and I have not heard from him and it was kind of lonely. I have really become a little needy:) I wouldn't call that being needy. I call that "being in love with your husband". And that is a great thing. Keep brainstorming the employment situation. I know something wonderful is on the horizon for you and your husband. Nice update. Keep them coming. AM
BW - 70
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D-day - 17 Apr 08
H broke contact 11/1/09
Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
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Good job! I agree with your action the job should work for your marriage not the other way around.
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What wonderful news Marie!
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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We have begged and borrowed to make the budget work but the change in our relationship has been crazy. I am so happy. He is so happy. whoever said you won't care if you can't pay everyone is totally right.
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What can they do??... I believe the expression is you cannot get blood from a turnip.
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I'm going to make a prediction that the two of you are going to sort out all the financial stuff and then some. Now that you are a team and aren't squandering your energies on crazy shifts you will smash it. Not that it's important 
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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I hope you are right and truly since we have been working together things have been so much better (in spite of our date nights:)) My husband keeps saying God gives us exactly what we need plus a hundred dollars:) However I will be cutting my income in half at least on unemployment...but whatever. Like you said not really that important.
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