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I respectfully disagree wannabophim. That can be the case but I don't think so here. Only because he has told the OP that he 'gets on better with women' and is going to make a concerted effort to make female friends.
Even if she met every need there is to meet, he actually plans on having a variety of women meet his needs anyway. Also, while he is allowing the OW to meet a need, Needso isn't able to. I mean she could try to admire him for example, but she would still have to make complaints as a part of normal married life, whereas OW is free to be nothing but admiring.
She could look at if she does meet his needs properly later on but the priority first of all is to get rid of OW.
It is not a lack of needs causing the problem here, it is a lack of boundaries with women.
Even in a perfect marriage, an OS friendship is a danger. x2
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Unfortunately, we all know needsomuchhelp will probably be back on here and telling us her H is now having an affair. It's very difficult to see these betrayed spouses go through the exact same thing we all did and not see the runaway train coming their way. We all had these friendships start in the same way. We all had our spouses profess their love for us and downplay the "friendship". Most of our waywards never thought they would be capable of an affair. The best advice for needsomuchhelp is she needs to go with her gut. Her intuition is right.
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