Blessed are the flexible, for they shall not be bent out of shape!

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If we avoid being judgmental our personal peace will increase.

Well the other guy has been hanging out a lot more at the house and my DD is now �hung up� on him and he doesn�t know if he wants to be with her or not and she told me yesterday that she misses her exBF already.

Her attitude has improved slightly except when she gets upset about the other guy not showing enough attention to her (what she thinks is enough attention which is all of his attention she does not like it when we turn on the TV when he is there because he watches it instead of paying attention to her she would rather have the radio on) then she gets nasty with everyone and you can�t even talk to her without her biting your head off.

If you have still not heard back from Dr Harley, send a reminder, they may have mislaid your question. No sense in just blogging.

So I get home from work last night and the exBF is at the house. I wondered why but I know my DD kept their dog so I thought maybe he had come by to see the dog (he has done that two other times since he left) and check if he left anything else behind.

So I say hello and my DD said she called him and invited over to hang out, I thought WTH, but did not say anything and went about my business. Well I�ll be darned if before the exBF left the new guy shows up too.

So now I�m am thinking (I don�t know for sure) that because the new guy doesn�t like her enough to date her that she is going to try to make him jealous with the exBF or she is being self-centered again and wants to have the exBF on the back burner in case this doesn�t go where she wants it to with the new guy. To me that is so unfair of her to do, she is really leading both of them on

I forgot she also has yet to finish helping the exBF go through their stuff in storage so they still have that bill.

She also still has a card to their shared bank account and she checks out his balance and uses the card and tells him she owes him money instead of just going and opening herself a new account.

And the poor dog has basically became mine and my husband�s because the only thing she is doing is feeding him, she is too worried about the other guy to do anything so that is why I was so shocked to see the exBF there last night, it is just too weird.

Done

There are two kinds of people; the givers and the takers. The takers may sometimes eat better, but the givers always sleep better.

Danny Thomas

Somehow, not only for Christmas but all the long year through, the joy we give to others is the joy that comes back to us.

. . . . . . John Greenleaf Whittier, poet

This really sums up how just listening to just the giver or just the taker doesn't work at all.

After all we need to both eat and sleep. It isn't an either/or choice!

So if we listen to both, we can have both.

The only problem I have with Mr Thomas' very astute metaphor (taking takes care of one type of need, giving takes care of another) is that he seems to think you have to decide which 'side' you are on.

This is a bit like people who don't poja. They never discuss, or consider taking care of ALL or BOTH needs - they turn it into a me/you choice as though one person must be loser.

Have you heard back from Dr Harley?

No, I have a feeling I am not going to, he is to busy saving marriages and that is fine

But you sent the email, correct?

Dr. Harley answers many questions that aren't just related to marriages. Sometimes emails go to their spam. Notify the MODS so they can let Dr Harley know.

Yes I sent it twice.

So notify the MODS.